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Do not want to move

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Jalima1108 Wed 28-Jun-17 17:52:11

Obviously the answers on this thread did not help you at all so I don't know if anyone can come up with anything new.

Renting sounds the best option - you never know, you might like it, Newcastle is not the end of civilisation as we know it smile

www.gransnet.com/forums/relationships/a1233060-Moving

Jalima1108 Wed 28-Jun-17 17:49:48

Yes, flamenco started a thread asking for advice about this about six months ago so presumably the problem is still not resolved.

Oh dear, it sounds as if you are really reluctant flamenco, hope you can both sort it out.

Riverwalk Wed 28-Jun-17 17:36:41

er, this sounds familiar - haven't you asked this before? hmm

Luckylegs9 Wed 28-Jun-17 17:21:50

Should be a joint decision, it affects you both equally.

Cherrytree59 Wed 28-Jun-17 17:16:11

Hi Flamenco
As you live part-time in Sunny Spain is it the thought of deaing with the cold and wet weather further North that is troubling you?

devongirl Wed 28-Jun-17 16:39:04

*rent

devongirl Wed 28-Jun-17 16:38:54

Absolutely agree, ernt initially, if difficult financially you could put some of your things in storage and rent out your own property furnished, or maybe get a lodger.

Luckygirl Wed 28-Jun-17 16:23:02

Moving house, especially to a different area is a huge decision and it must be a joint one.

Good idea about renting for a bit.

Jalima1108 Wed 28-Jun-17 16:20:54

Good idea and even if you do decide you like the new area enough to move it gives you a chance to find somewhere suitable.

M0nica Wed 28-Jun-17 16:04:56

Please do as paddyann suggests. A friend made a risky move without testing it out first, it was a disaster, but she had moved from an expensive area to a cheaper one, spent the balance on home improvement and a new car and could not afford to move again.

I am convinced this contributed to her early death.

paddyann Wed 28-Jun-17 15:27:09

could you rent somewhere in the area for a few weeks and see how you get on? It might be much better than you think it will.If you dont like it no major harm done you can go back to your own home

Jalima1108 Wed 28-Jun-17 11:06:26

ps did you find moving to Spain for part of the year scary and presumably now enjoy it?

Lots of questions and I can understand your apprehension but sometimes the thought of doing something is worse than the actual deed.

Jalima1108 Wed 28-Jun-17 11:04:50

When you say his family do you mean his DC or siblings, parents or more distant family?
If they are his DC and DGC perhaps he is missing them. If you go to see your DD would you be near an airport so that you could still go to see them and would you be nearer to your own DS?

Can you not move nearer to Manchester if that is nearer to his family too?

vampirequeen Wed 28-Jun-17 10:54:07

If you don't like the place then you're not being unreasonable. Can you compromise with a sort of midway move?

flamenco Wed 28-Jun-17 10:31:57

Am I being unreasonable? My partner of 10 years wants us to move far north nearer his family, I am very much a southerner have a a brother and cousin nearby and all of my friends, my daughters live in Australia one son near Manchester. We live part of the year in Spain but six months here. I dislike where we are going and it's so far from everyone I know , the thought scares me, it's just too far North for me. I feel very resentful but also dislike myself for being so negative.