Do not want to move

Obviously the answers on this thread did not help you at all so I don't know if anyone can come up with anything new.

Renting sounds the best option - you never know, you might like it, Newcastle is not the end of civilisation as we know it

www.gransnet.com/forums/relationships/a1233060-Moving

Yes, flamenco started a thread asking for advice about this about six months ago so presumably the problem is still not resolved.

Oh dear, it sounds as if you are really reluctant flamenco, hope you can both sort it out.

er, this sounds familiar - haven't you asked this before?

Should be a joint decision, it affects you both equally.

Hi Flamenco
As you live part-time in Sunny Spain is it the thought of deaing with the cold and wet weather further North that is troubling you?

*rent

Absolutely agree, ernt initially, if difficult financially you could put some of your things in storage and rent out your own property furnished, or maybe get a lodger.

Moving house, especially to a different area is a huge decision and it must be a joint one.

Good idea about renting for a bit.

Good idea and even if you do decide you like the new area enough to move it gives you a chance to find somewhere suitable.

Please do as paddyann suggests. A friend made a risky move without testing it out first, it was a disaster, but she had moved from an expensive area to a cheaper one, spent the balance on home improvement and a new car and could not afford to move again.

I am convinced this contributed to her early death.

could you rent somewhere in the area for a few weeks and see how you get on? It might be much better than you think it will.If you dont like it no major harm done you can go back to your own home

ps did you find moving to Spain for part of the year scary and presumably now enjoy it?

Lots of questions and I can understand your apprehension but sometimes the thought of doing something is worse than the actual deed.

When you say his family do you mean his DC or siblings, parents or more distant family?
If they are his DC and DGC perhaps he is missing them. If you go to see your DD would you be near an airport so that you could still go to see them and would you be nearer to your own DS?

Can you not move nearer to Manchester if that is nearer to his family too?

If you don't like the place then you're not being unreasonable. Can you compromise with a sort of midway move?