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Would you marry for money?

(123 Posts)
MissAdventure Thu 29-Jun-17 14:41:38

All the single ladies, all the single ladies.. no, I've not become a beyonce fan, but interested to know if those who are single would consider a loveless, but very comfortable life?

MissAdventure Thu 29-Jun-17 16:12:55

Very good point. People put up with all sorts, rather than be lonely.

annsixty Thu 29-Jun-17 17:02:44

I don't know anyone who has married for money but I do know some who have stayed in a marriage that was far from ideal because they had a very good lifestyle and wouldn't give it up. I couldn't and wouldn't do that.

harrigran Thu 29-Jun-17 17:03:14

Money has a way of adding beer goggles and ironing out a few creases. I wouldn't discount it.

DanniRae Thu 29-Jun-17 17:07:24

Yes, if he turned a blind to me taking a gorgeous lover! wink

MissAdventure Thu 29-Jun-17 17:17:30

I've a man who would probably marry me, come to think of it, but I find him physically repulsive, and I think he would prefer someone more glam than me. I expect he thinks "beggars can't be choosers".
Anyway, he hasn't the type of money I need. grin

GillT57 Thu 29-Jun-17 18:18:58

No amount of money or alcohol could ever make Donald Trump attractive....those little hands, and pouting lower lip.

MissAdventure Thu 29-Jun-17 18:31:26

That lip always looks like it'd be quite slimy..

nanaK54 Thu 29-Jun-17 18:53:49

Stop MissAdventure I'm now feeling quite queasy grin

MamaCaz Thu 29-Jun-17 19:25:02

'Love' is a strange thing. Judging by the number of younger, attractive women who marry aging celebrities, money would appear to play a disproportionate part in this emotion!

Eloethan Thu 29-Jun-17 20:52:28

No. Money wouldn't make up for a loveless relationship. But being poor for any length of time is quite a strain on even a loving relationship.

rosesarered Thu 29-Jun-17 21:18:12

Agreed Eloethan
I can see why some women marry for a comfortable lifestyle if they like the man.
Nobody has to be besotted.

Chewbacca Thu 29-Jun-17 21:21:17

harrigran nailed it.

Evenstar Fri 30-Jun-17 10:08:40

No. My sister is married to a very wealthy man. Yes, she has the money to do virtually whatever she wants, but she's very very unhappy.

harrysgran Fri 30-Jun-17 10:09:45

When I was younger I would of said definitely not but older and wiser now and not looking at retirement unfortunately until the age of 67 due to changes in pension scheme I would certainly consider it money doesn't bring you happiness but it can make looking for it great fun

radicalnan Fri 30-Jun-17 10:10:00

I have married twice for love and look where that got me !!!!!!!!

grannytotwins Fri 30-Jun-17 10:10:08

When I found myself single in my forties I said to myself that I would find myself a man with money so I didn't have to worry any more. Of course, the only wealthy men I met were repulsive and I then found the love of my life. We don't have much, a roof over our heads and enough to eat, but I'm so happy. It's our twentieth wedding anniversary this year. Money would be lovely, but love is better.

Sparkles Fri 30-Jun-17 10:10:11

not in the past but if I met someone now who was wealthy and interesting yes I would

Desdemona Fri 30-Jun-17 10:12:37

I am single, and am happy to remain that way. But I can understand that some people might marry for reasons other than love - and as long as they like and respect each other well enough then I can't see a problem with it.

Maybe it is easier when one gets older and the need for passion and sex lessens a bit? Having said that it is perfectly possible to have great sex with someone you aren't in love with (in my experience....from a VERY long time ago!!)

Grampie Fri 30-Jun-17 10:13:54

merlotgran,

A loveless marriage must be hard work so it seems that your friend earned the wealth she inherited from her husband.

She can now look for love.

Kim19 Fri 30-Jun-17 10:14:30

Having experienced my idea of the 'real thing' the very notion makes me feel decidedly squeamish.

Sulis Fri 30-Jun-17 10:17:21

hmmmm, no I wouldn't. However, a woman who marries for money is called unprincipled,but never the less, a wife. A woman who doesn't marry for money, but sleeps with men for money, is called a prostitute. Doesn't seem fair.

eebeew Fri 30-Jun-17 10:28:11

Depends how financially desperate I was. Living in a car or under a bridge? And if I liked him. Yes of course. If not in desperate straights probably not.

sarahellenwhitney Fri 30-Jun-17 10:30:48

Regardless of age or looks? (I could always lie back and think of England) then the answer is a big YES.grin

cariad2104 Fri 30-Jun-17 10:31:01

I have had a marriage and a long term relationship where everything was about love, and ended up broken hearted twice, I would now definitely marry for money as long as you got on and were treated well then I don't see the problem.

Lilylilo Fri 30-Jun-17 10:43:30

No def no ......nothing beats waking up to a good looking man that you love and who loves you!