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Would you marry for money?

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MissAdventure Thu 29-Jun-17 14:41:38

All the single ladies, all the single ladies.. no, I've not become a beyonce fan, but interested to know if those who are single would consider a loveless, but very comfortable life?

dorsetpennt Fri 30-Jun-17 10:51:21

At my age I'd be lucky ? so if I did he'd have to be rich, with one foot in the grave and the other on a banana skin. No family to inherit and no chronic illness. A woman I know ended up being her rich husband's nurse and he left everything to his children and other members of his family. Orphans only please.

Maggiemaybe Fri 30-Jun-17 10:52:14

The only wealthy boyfriend I had was also good-looking, kind and wrote me romantic poems. He'd bored me rigid in three months, so my answer would be no.

But then I've never been homeless, or lonely - I'm sure under those circumstances I could have done it.

starlily106 Fri 30-Jun-17 10:54:25

Married 3 times, no money at all, no, I couldn't do it. Although as I'm 80 next week I don't suppose it matters now . Lol

downsized Fri 30-Jun-17 10:56:40

No. I've been a widow for two years but I couldn't marry again for money or anything else.

MaryBee Fri 30-Jun-17 11:02:56

Wow! Spot on !

Dancingmunchkin14 Fri 30-Jun-17 11:05:07

I've gone for love 3 times, my first husband (lasted 2 years) i divorced for persistent cruelty. My second husband together for 17 years, had an affair which we tried to get over, then he left me for a wealthy woman (didn't work out) my last relationship of 19 years, was very happy, loved him so much. I found out he was gaving a 'fling', he said he loved me and the fling wasn't serious, but I'd been hurt too many times, so we split 6 years ago!
So my answer is: YES!!

Jane10 Fri 30-Jun-17 11:19:23

Marrying for love is a relatively new concept. Just reading 18th and 19th century novels demonstrates that marriage was a business decision especially in wealthy or titled families. I suppose as a poor spinster in those days a roof over your head and square meals would be a good bargain. You wouldn't have to love him just put up with him.
If I was single and lonely and a nice enough chap came along I might say yes provided he was good company.

janza Fri 30-Jun-17 11:20:28

I am divorced and married for love ended in a disaster
Nor sure marrying for money would make a difference x

Juggernaut Fri 30-Jun-17 11:28:26

Only if he had one foot in the grave and t'other on a banana skin ?
However, if he looked like that Trump creature, then no, no, no!

JanaNana Fri 30-Jun-17 11:36:14

No. I would rather be hard up and happy. .... I have known people who have married for money ...but it does,nt buy true happiness. It may give you financial security and the happiness that some people equate with wealth ....but a soulmate is everything that money cannot buy.

LuckyDucky Fri 30-Jun-17 11:42:29

Marry for money? I didn't and love my DH to pieces
after 50 years.

My mother married after my father death and regretted it. My sister divorced her fist husband, then later married a moneyed man and regretted it. Moneyed men (the ones I've met) can be selfish, demanding, manipulative and unfaithful.

If I were to outlive my DH, which I dread, I'd not re-marry. I'd hope to find a (male) friend or two, with a similar sense of humour and outlook on life.

MissAdventure Fri 30-Jun-17 11:46:24

Men without money can be selfish, manipulative, demanding and unfaithful too!

ajanela Fri 30-Jun-17 11:47:07

The other side of the question is would yoh marry a poor man? Thinking particularly when we were young. I know many of my friends were looking for someone with money and good prospects and a good family background. I say this as when I married in the sixties we had £6 between us but have worked together and have a good life. Whilst many of the good prospects didn't survive.

gagsy Fri 30-Jun-17 11:54:04

Money can't buy health, love, loyalty, kindness, companionship, friendship. Money is great but without those things not worth much

MissAdventure Fri 30-Jun-17 11:54:34

If I believed I had found the love of my life, I wouldn't care what his finances were..
I would be less inclined now to jump feet first into anything now though than I would when younger.

goldengirl Fri 30-Jun-17 11:55:54

We had very little money when we first married but we were happy and were and still are best friends. Love is rather a nebulous term really - a bit like what Prince Charles once said I suppose. I 'love' having a real best friend and DH fits the bill

MissAdventure Fri 30-Jun-17 11:57:12

Companionship, friendship, laughter, support, kindness, are all possible without love..

spookygran Fri 30-Jun-17 12:01:52

I married for love the first time, still am married but would consider marrying for money. I've had a hard financial time with a husband who spends every penny we have, all the time. Retirement hasn't been good because of lack of money. So yes would consider it.

Lilypops Fri 30-Jun-17 12:04:20

Si had a friend who married a wealthy widower, they both just wanted companionship in their old years, nothing more it was understood,
He died leaving her very wealthy, it worked in her case, they were both happy with each other, so yes , I would consider it if I was ever asked as long as he was a nice clean chap, why not if it makes a happy life,

acanthus Fri 30-Jun-17 12:15:29

Purely for money to be spent flagrantly - no, but for financial stability - I have no problem with that. I was attracted to my husband, and love him, but even in my very early twenties I instinctively knew that he would be a good provider. This was probably because my father had been quite the opposite. I've seen many marriages, begun in the euphoria of love/sex, which have floundered due to financial ineptitude. As Michael Caine once said, "I've been poor and I've been rich. Believe me, rich is better."

Sulis Fri 30-Jun-17 12:20:09

Married 3 times for love, all three being drop-dead gorgeous. Problem was that everyone else - plus their mothers, sisters, aunts and cousins fancied them too, so all three left and left me broken-hearted. However, I am now the matriarch of a small family as my one and only son has two little ones. Perfect, and no bossy bloke to tell me how to live my life, or how stupid I am!!! Marry for money? Marry for love? Just don't bother!

lovebeigecardigans1955 Fri 30-Jun-17 12:25:41

Mmm, interesting question. If the chap was very, very rich could he possibly be a nice person? Did he get rich by stepping on others? In which case he probably wouldn't be very pleasant as a husband.
I think I once read on the back of a matchbox, "Those who marry for money usually end up having to earn it," or some such which implies that such a situation wouldn't exactly be hunky dory.
There must be love or at least respect or surely there'd always be a hankering for what might have been.

Theoddbird Fri 30-Jun-17 12:36:20

If I cared about them...don't have to be in love...just friends... Yes I would.... I haven't given up on finding someone...hahaha

quizqueen Fri 30-Jun-17 12:45:10

I could never marry someone I wasn't compatible with; I'd rather be poor.

MissAdventure Fri 30-Jun-17 12:48:52

Does compatibility have to include love though?