Getting a bit fed up of her showing off

Bluebell, up to you how you choose to read a post, I was speaking of my feelings towards my siblings affluent life styles , I am happy for them.

I don't think it is just you bytheway your sister sounds thoughtless at best. I know what it's like to struggle and to have this kind of constant bragging thrown in your face can wear you down after a while. There are plenty people with a lot of money or luxury lifestyles but they don't go around belittling those who are less fortunate ( or not as lucky) as they are.

People are different in the things they think are important.

I know people who work all hours God sends to accumulate money and stuff and I know people who are happy less stuff but lead a much more relaxed lifestyle.

'Thankfully I have never known envy' .......That sounds like a real dig
Nothing the OP has said indicates she's jealous she has said catergorically that she isn't jealous and has felt glad for her sister all through her life You can't say fairer than that
When people are rich or having a great lifestyle they need to just get on with it no one enjoys conversations with a braggart especially repeated conversations
I would feel a lot nicer towards OPs sister if she had told us the sister had a plentiful lifestyle but often included her in treats or helped her out when in difficulties She didn't say any of that perhaps she ll come back and tell us more

I have four siblings who own their homes, I rent, they holidayed several times a year, I don't, I like to hear about their holidays, if any of them goes to a social function I ask if they had an enjoyable evening, when they change their cars I like to hear which car they have chosen, thankfully I have never known envy

If she's not normally like this then just perhaps she's excited at having moved to a great new house and the fact that they are coming into a sizeable sum of money. Wouldn't you want to discuss such things with a very close sibling? Are you sure you're not just a little bit envious?

I know how it feels, having one sibling very rich. What do your other siblings think? My sis agrees with me about our bro and call him " the big I am" , my sister calls him a w...er!
But somewhere she must be insecure or unhappy , never know what goes on behind closed doors.

Is she a Hyacinth? Does she actually realise what she's doing?

I used to have a friend who 'moved up in the world' and found that she hated it. They became rich enough to own the 'big house' of the village and have a housekeeper and gardener - a married couple who lived in a bungalow on the estate (yes that kind of money). She found that she could no longer be friends with the ordinary village people because there was a gulf between them and she didn't like the people who now saw her as a potential friend. She described them as people who wouldn't have given her the time of day if she was still living on a council estate but now she was socially acceptable. She didn't feel there was anybody who liked her just for herself. She didn't feel she had to impress anybody but I can see how another person might.

Can't abide anyone who just wants to talk about themselves and their problems, family etc.

Got talking to a lady at the bus stop the other day. She was telling me all about her grandchildren and family.
I tried to tell her about my grandchildren, but she just ploughed on with her stories.
Not the least bit interested in me or mine.

I consider it very bad manners.
Trouble is, I am a very good listener, so get taken advantage of quite frequently.

I blame Facebook. Seriously, I do. This 'like' button on there has a lot to answer for. Although I have a FB presence, I rarely go on there... for this very reason.

There's always someone bragging about something and it seems that the more people brag, the more 'likes' they get. For some, this can be addictive and encourages those people to brag some more — for the 'like' count. Given enough time, this spills over into daily life and begins to change people. They actually believe the 'likes' on their comments.

I'm too recognisable on GN to give you absolute instances but I'd ask you to believe me when I say I could give you two specific reference points where I've watched this happen over time.

I don't have an antidote for this other than staying away but how can you say any of this to a third party? You really can't.

This doesn't apply to everyone of course. I'm referring to those whose heads are easily turned by the compliments. I think it's a sign of the times we live in.

My DM had three siblings, two of them very like her, but the other one, she's such a show off, to the point of being a total bitch at times!
"Our B's house is very comfy, it will never be as posh as mine of course, but that can't be helped!" DM's house was worth almost three times as much as hers, and in a far, far, nicer area!
"It's a shame that B's, J's and P's children aren't as bright as mine. Still I suppose they can always do some sort of factory work!" We turned out to be a Barrister, a Doctor, a Librarian and a Police Superintendent.
When my DM had a shower cubicle fitted, the comment was "Is it because you're too fat to get in the bath?" DM was 4 inches taller and weighed 18lbs less, was very slim, but had hip problems so couldn't get up or down in bath!
My DH bought me a gorgeous eternity ring, when Aunt J saw it, she said "Well, the size of those stones, they're definitely fake". It's not fake, it's diamonds, and it's not huge, but it's bigger than hers, which is just not allowed!
None of us have ever been able to work out why she's this way, she's the second eldest, married a man with a very good career, travelled the world with him due to his job, and has basically led a blessed life.
Still, there's nowt so queer as folk!

It's not about envy of the person being in a better position, it's all about how it's pushed in your face and the way in which it is said. I have a life long friend who has charmed life with no money worries but I don't hear her go on about it her life in a way that annoys me. In fact I wouldn't enjoy her life. It's all about being being respectful and thoughtful of other people.

We had an Auntie like this when we were little. Mum used to listen sympathetically over a cup of tea and contribute little bits to the conversation such as 'how nice for you dear' 'well, that's lovely' and similar. My Auntie had had very little when she was growing up and I often wondered if it was because she could hardly believe her luck at having all these things that made her constantly talk about them. Mum never seemed to let it bother her - my Auntie had no children and Mum used to say how hard it must be for her to visit and see the three of us running around. Maybe it is the same with your sister?

I am not sure what the alternatives are for yur sister. She wants to talk to you about her life and that is her life, lucky her.

What would you prefer? She is being authentic. All of us live different lives and share them with each other. I have friends and family who are wealthy and have fabulous holidays etc and don't expect them to censor their conversations to fit in with what I can afford to do, after all it doesn't mean they don't have problems or that I don't have things / experiences that money can't buy.

You probably have friends who have less than you materially, that's life. Swings and Roundabouts.

I agree with Bluebelle.

I have a golf acquaintance/friend like this who is full of herself, talks constantly and doesn't listen..... I haven't contacted her for some months now for the lunch I promised I would arrange. .

Head above parapet. Success is a very dirty thing. You are not allowed to show you enjoy the fruits of your labour and you must of course share your hard work wit others that my not have worked so hard or put in the effort required to be a success. Of course we are often just a little bit envious of others that have done well for themselves whilst we ourselves haven't done as well. Ducking down now

Just wondering if she is the youngest child in the family and this is her way of keeping her end up?

If she uses some of her money to treat her loved ones and friends, then fair enough ....let her waffle on, enjoy the treats and tell her you appreciate her generosity! If she doesn't and just waffles on, tell her you know how lucky she is, you are pleased she has such a charmed life but as you are not in that position, although happy with your lot, hearing quite so much about her good fortune is just boring!!

I agree with Bluebelle, my own sister is the same so much so that I don't bother with her, she bores me sick and I got fed up up with little digs, oh you have a lovely little house when she come to visit. Lovely house yes by why add little? Everyone is judged by what they have and the size of their house and their lifestyle. I wouldn't have a her as a friend.

If you have always been close, you know the real her. I would chat to her about it.

She maybe feels comfortable enough with you to be able to talk about her comfortable life.

One if ny brothers is very well off and does flaunt it but I shared a mother so know where it stems from!! He would, however, give you any help at all if you were in need.

Another thing to bear in mind, anders been alluded to above,everyone has their own cross to bear - can you discover what hers is?

Agree with Bluebelle . I have a sister who is comfortably off but she never brags about it . Your sister will end up alienating everyone unless you gently point out that bragging is not a desirable personality trait.

Surely it's what people do when they move house, talk about it, I am reluctant to say this but are you a little envious? You don't say she recently moved house, but she moved into a very,very desirable house etc.

Maybe she's not actually showing off. Perhaps she's just telling you about her life. She just happens to have moved house to a different area and, like anyone else, is keen to talk about it. If what she says is factual, it's the reality of her life rather than showing off? Give her a break rather than condemn her for having more than you. Sounds like she's one of the lucky ones in life.

I used to work with a woman who always said things to impress.Always got plenty of money . Foreign holidays many times every year. Happiest marriage on the planet. She had a nickname at work ..The Queen! or queenie!..
We used to go away with her and her family once a year for two weeks and often out on weekends and everything seemed happy and blissful and it did on occasions cause arguments between me and my husband as we would ask ourselves why can we not afford what they can afford..then it all fell into place when one of their teenage daughters turned up on my doorstep one evening crying and asking where her mum was ...I had no idea she had been sleeping around and had gone off with one her many beau's for a better life and it also turned out she had left her husband in thousands of ££££'s worth of debt and even squirreled away his tax money he needed for end of year Bill and left him with nothing in the account , he almost ended up in jail because of it .
So I would take what she says with a pinch of salt and Just be there to give her support when if it all comes crashing down around her ears in whatever way it does. She might be living a lie ...money troubles may be part of her life ..husband worries could be too... She could be unhappy at the amount of time she spends alone while he is out earning his crust.I'm sure if she was as content as you think she is she would not be feeling the need to brag so openly about it to you .