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DS did not get his university place of choice, one of the problems of oversubscribed courses. He went into clearing and did a completely different course, met his wife and has been in employment since the day he left university. All's well that ends well.

I can totally understand how anxious you are feeling for your DGD Anniebach . We all just want what's best for them don't we? I remember what I was like trying to get my DGD into the secondary school close to home, I couldn't think about anything else and was literally worried sick about it. She too totally refused to discuss the alternative. Am I right in assuming that if her A level results aren't as good as expected she will definitely not get a place at the university where her siblings are/were? Is it possible that she may still get in through clearing or is it a very popular university? I have my fingers crossed for you/her. I think I worry more about my DGC's futures than I ever did my own children. What are we like?

You say she is complicated well we all are in our own different ways aren't we?

I am sure it is a truism that we worry most about the things we can least affect.
My head says you did not take her A levels, so you could not directly affect how she has done, my head also says that the papers are long since marked, moderated, checked so again nothing can be changed. The results will be in school/college by Wednesday so nothing can change, but because all of these things ARE beyond our control all we can do is wait and worry.
Perfectly understandable.
Chances are she will be fine but a plan B does no harm, including an open line of communications to her (I hope helpful and sympathetic) careers teacher/Sixth form tutor, and an awareness of alternative options - appeal to the university, Clearing etc being just two.
My 3 daughters all had disappointing results in ONE of their A levels and there was much wailing and soul searching. The eldest ended up at Manchester instead of Nottingham and could not have made a better choice! Great course, loved being in the North, wonderful friends and an excellent degree. The second did not let it deter her, carried on as planned took an extra year to get to where she wanted to be and has never looked back. The youngest rethought, reapplied for a totally different course, went travelling, worked to gain practical experience and ended up with one of the best degrees of her course.
Yes I wept with them but TBH if they had NOT had these setbacks I genuinely believe their lives would have been different and they would not be where they are now. They have done better and their lives have been richer precisely because of what happened.
Of course I can see how your DGD has set her sights on following in her brother and sister's footsteps and truly hope that all will be well. It is also natural that you worry, that's called love.

Annie, you're worrying because you care and that's how it should be, particularly if you've played a big part in your GCs' upbringing. Your GD is now ready to make her own decisions and whatever results she achieves, things will fall into place.
I'm assuming she has a back up choice for lesser grades, so if she does need to rethink her first choice of uni, then just help her in a practical way with searching quickly for accommodation. Fingers crossed.

Whatever happens, she will cope, I hope if it's not the news you hope for, you turn it into a positive, who knows what path her life will take, it could be for the better, as long as she has family to fall back on, she will learn independence away from her siblings. My son is a good example of that, despite not going to University, he has done far better than anyone could have envisaged, but the best thing of all that I am proud of, he is a thoroughly lovely guy with a heart of gold.

Keeping my fingers crossed for your ygd, Annie!

Whatever happens, by the end of university, she'll probably be more independent and not want their protectiveness so much. Maybe even by the end of the first year. You know how that goes.

Thank you I haven't been this anxious before, worried and concerned yes but I need to get a grip . Her Dad and I give her much attention but she wants to be with her sister and brother , they are very protective of her .

Anyway I will be positive , stand by for a post end of month as my third baby heads for university, I will be lost , hey ho

Love isn't always "sensible", Annie, hope it all works for her, either way you'll be there for her as you've been in the past. X

Everything crossed for her

Soon be over Annie! Hope she gets what she needs.

Thank you J52 I feel daft getting so worked up , she will not discuss it and I respect her way of coping with the wait. Again thank you

I hope she is successful, but there are a couple of back up strategies:
If her results are not what was required, she should phone the admissions tutor immediately, they may still give her the place ( it was the case for youngsters I know ). Failing that search the clearing places for that university and see if she can get a place on a related course requiring lower grades.
Good luck!