My son is being hard on me

HI.....can only add that you appear to be a great dad under the circumstances.....but as he's 10 it's a big concept for him to come to grasps with, especially as his time with you will be sacrosanct......and he might think the 'new person' will take you away from him........ask his opinion as to how he feels about you seeing someone on a friendly, rather than certain, basis.

BlueBelle is right. The little boy is afraid of losing his dad. It's like telling him "hey, I now have a new best friend". Theres's bound to be a worry that he'll spend his time and energy with his new friend, and no child can be expected to understand that an adult needs a significant other. Best to let him absorb the news and meanwhile don't spend any less time with him than before, and keep making those special memories with him.

Your little boy is so young to be going through this and has coped very well with the changes by the sound of things and you have been a great hands on dad being there with him,I would leave any discussion re new lady in your life for now and not mention it at all let him bring up the subject and he will when he is ready.

Many thanks guy. I really appreciate your help!

Good advice from Bluebell David. It was always going to be difficult for him when you or his mum got someone new in their lives.

Sounds like your a great dad and the bond that you have will see you through.

Best wishes for your future.

Hi David, perhaps you are a victim of your own success: you have kept the father-son bond well, so he doesn't want that security threatened.

It is natural and normal for him to feel wobbily about you seeing somebody. Also, our children can often harbour hopes that we will reunite - no matter how unrealistic - if we are not seeing anyone else. If you have been 'single' for a long time this aspect might also bother him.

You obviously want to be sensitive to him. so you need to consider how much your 'dating' is directly affecting him, or likely to impact in the future. If he is expected to accommodate a new person right from the get-go, if you cancel times with him to be with them, if you compromise what he expects as 1:1 time early on, then tbh, it isn't a case of him being 'hard on you', rather you not realising how hard it is for him.

'Dating' implies a fairly casual beginning - it might be better to keep any new relationship to yourself until you feel it is significant enough to warrant an introduction. If things are casual, ask yourself how fair it is to bring people in and out of his life to suit your own convenience.

It is tricky, but at ten he is very young and his time with you must be precious to him. If you can put him first in the early stages of any relationship that will help him adjust and anyone worth their salt to you should understand that you need to do this.

Normal reaction no one likes changes especially kids and old folks ? take it very slow and keep the new Lady out his life for a while Tiny steps are best no big sweeping changes He may be imagining he will lose you to this 'rival' and he's right in a way he will have to share at some point Has his Mum a new partner orbis this the first 'outsider' in the equation ?
Ten s a funny old age neither kid or teen he's at that inbetween stage
I wouldn't say any more at this stage let him compute it and settle
Good luck

It sounds as though you have managed the divorce and your sons life extremely well up to now. He has been very happy and secure in his world. Now you are threatening to change it and he is bound not to like it.
Go slowly.