Support for Grans cut-out of AC&GC lives

Hi ladies, well I have lovely news to report. As you all know, things have been very difficult us recently (as things are difficult for all of you) but just this last week or so we have been able to see our daughter and her children. Our daughter invited us to go skating with her and the children, my job was to look after baby grandson whilst they all skated, he is ten weeks old and must be feeling he knows me a bit now after this last week as he keeps laughing at me every time he sees me, I may not be a beauty queen but I'm sure I'm not that funny! Anyway it's wonderful to be able to get to know him, when I think how we weren't even told that our daughter was going in hospital for her planned cesarian, and then how SiL deliberately withheld the information that she in back in hospital with a serious kidney infection, it seems hardly credible. It does seem to show that my beloved grandmother was right, she often used to say 'There's nowt so funny as folk' and she was right! My daughter's behaviour is inexplicable, her husband remains very cool with us, but he was brought up very differently from our children. He was an only, indulged child who rarely had contact with his extended family, whilst our children were brought up with regular contact with their wider family wherever possible. For example, my mother has seen my daughter's children many times, despite living over 200 miles away, but SiLs grandmother has only ever seen the children once, and that was after his mother pleaded and pleaded with him! SiL has openly admitted he is a 'control freak' and he is certainly very controlling with his children.

Well I am wishing all the grandparents on here a wonderful Christmas with the family they have contact with, and indeed a happy Christmas to everyone who is estranged from beloved family members. I have said before that my sister estranged herself from our entire family (many years ago now) and it turned out that she had severe mental health issues and needed a lot of treatment, but whilst we didn't know this, it caused us all terrible pain. Even now, years later, her behaviour is often not ideal, especially towards our elderly mother, but at least we know she struggles with her mental health, so we are more tolerant with her. She should take her medication for the rest of her life, but sometimes she stops taking it. It does upset me when my mother gets upset, but it is what it is, can't be changed.

Happy Christmas everyone, in the words of the song, if you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with, and I know you ALL love your family members. Blessings (*Celeb*keep taking the medication, you're getting there )
to you all.

Thanks, Rhinestone! Same to you!

And I totally agree with your post about being supportive here!

I hope you all have a happy holiday and New Year.??

But if one has a concern, one can contact GNHQ at [email protected]

I don’t understand what happened as I must have missed something. All I know is that I’m mad that everyone is attacking everyone. I brought up the subject of going to court and the next thing I know all hell broke loose.
I don’t understand why, if you have an issue with someone, it can’t be discussed by private message. I’m here to help others and get support not to read character assassinations. Several times I have posted things and rather than getting an answer I have to read twenty posts of people going off on others. If we can’t get along here how can we expect the rest of the world to do so?
I don’t mean to lecture as I’m not perfect but I’m stressed everyday by what’s happening over here . I just want us all to be supportive of one another.

Inge, these forums are "lightly moderated," as it says in the Talk Guidelines:

www.gransnet.com/info/netiquette

Does this board have moderators? I'd have thought the offtopic posts might be removed in the interests of keeping it useful for the rest of us.

Yogagirl, you have contined to lie about me over and over again on this thread.
That's why I'm here. You dragged some comments that was made on another thread and twisted them about and posted them on here.
Pure lies. I came here to defend myself.
Celeb agreed that my MIL lying about having Cancer was a step too far, that she agreed my DH had tried everything to no succsess so understood why he had to step back from her, for the sake of his mental health and mine.

This thread has been supportive of everyone who has found themselves in difficult relationships. Mental health has been discussed very openly which has helped a lot of posters. Lots of tips have been shared about being greatful for what you have, that you can't change people's behaviour but how you need to let it go. That applies to alot of people.
You can't change people but change how you react to it.
I'm only here because of Yoga and the lies she's said about me but the few pages of advice on here is really helpful and I've taken some on board.

Welcome, kitlong! I'm sorry you're going through a hard time. I'm also sorry you came on here just when this thread is devolving into arguments.

This happens from time to time, but usually the thread gets back on track soon enough, This time, I think it may be a little harder because 2 of the egms (estranged grandmothers) are mad at each other. I'm not estranged, but I know that Christmas can be a difficult time for egps. So I imagine that's making things more intense.

I'm sure the thread will get back on track again though. Maybe your story is just what we need for that to happen. Please let us know what the problems are with your xdil. I'm sure you'll find a lot of support here even from posters who are angry at each other.

Maybe they can settle their differences in pm or start another thread if they want to debate out here, but focus on your concerns in this thread. Maybe not. Idk.

I was about to say, I thought this was a Support thread and it doesn't look very supportive right now.

You can make up whatever reality you please Yoga. But it's pretty unanimous that you are the one vauing the problems. You were bullying Celeb long before we came on.
And considering you haven't even had the decency to apologise to her I'm surprised you've got the nerve to post here.

Starlady from time to time our page is taken over by mums/d.i.ls, purely to disrupt, spoil & eventually get our page closed down, due to the hostilities stirred up by them, just for 'sport'. However this time Celebgran is backing them, God alone knows why.

Your welcome to PM me kitlong xx

This used to be a support page for grandmas cut out of the lives of their beloveds, but not anymore it seems

So sorry your going through hard times with your d.i.l kitlong

This is very sad. We are going through a horrible time atm with our ex DIL and I came on here looking for place to talk, hopefully find some words of wisdom and comfort, but all I can see is nonsense, squabbles and what appear to be personal jibes. I may not know the full story but please, is this really what this forum is all about?

*not a place

What's happening to this thread? I thought this was supposed to be a support thread - opened by Yoga, no less - not place for arguing with and attacking each other. What is going on?

So you can read my posts Yogagirl. Tsk here's me thinking you couldn't see them, turns out you're just ignorant.

Starlady How long have you been reading my posts?

I'm not your 'mate' Violet

Madgran77 take it you don't look at your inbox

STOP FB messaging me Celebgran I did not report your post & have only now come on because of your messages!!

Yogagirl You have still ignored my post to you several pages back now. I cannot believe that you are still arguing the toss over your comments and pretending innocence about your twofaced comment being a question. Why, why, why can you not atleast consider that not every story or situation is the same as yours ....and I would still be interested in a reply to my previous post, but I don't expect one, as it appears that there is no change.