Thank you for all the supportive comments. I think I have been trying too hard to create a 'happy families' situation and I realise that this is very unrealistic. My MIL is fully aware of how this has hurt us and our girls in the past as my husband has tried to her about it but she just verbally attacks. So yes, I will give up on it. Great to have the support from you.
Another silly little ABC game - shops we have loved and lost?