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I don't think I can do this any more!

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inishowen Sun 19-Nov-17 09:33:34

seasider, renting seems like a great idea.

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seasider Sun 19-Nov-17 07:27:51

Your home sounds lovely and I can understand your husband would be reluctant to leave . I believe familiarity helps people with dementia. Could you rent out just the land and let someone else care and for it? Look after yourself . I hope you find a solution

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NfkDumpling Sun 19-Nov-17 07:26:55

Well, you've given the family help when they were young, now it's their turn. If they want to help, let them. Priming a pump can be a s*d but is much easier done by someone younger. Just look after the bits around the house. Nature can care for the rest.

(Are you in Australia?)

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Jane10 Sun 19-Nov-17 07:25:58

Sorry to hear you're feeling so bad. Is it possible for you to employ someone to help you out with the various technical problems you're having and to help take the load off you in looking after the ground/garden ?

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farmgran Sun 19-Nov-17 07:13:00

Dear Gransnetters, I'm in such a predicament and I'm just needing to think what do next. H and i sold most of the farm to his family who now live in the old house. We kept 12 acres and built a new house because H would not leave the place he's lived on all his 86 years. There are all sorts of machinery etc that won't start for me and I end up in tears with H begging me to leave it alone. The long grass is getting longer and we're in for a dry summer. This evening I clambered down the bank to try and prime the pump to water the vege garden with no success and H standing at the top of the bank wanting me to leave it alone. The sensible thing to do would be to sell up but I don't think H will agree. I could simply up and leave him but I don't want to lose my family and create all sorts of upset. He's getting dementia and is driving me mad. All the family are helpful but I can't expect them to keep downing tools to come and help me.

Sorry this is such a long jumbled rant but I had to get it all off my chest.

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