Did you have doubts before you got married, and how did it turn out?

I've had doubts all the way through our marriage of 20 years but I think when you lose your parents your relatives you have no where to go I'd be careful if people have doubts at the start because that's your brain saying something is wrong

Never give it a thought even though a 20 year age gap. We had a good marriage few hurdles to over come (oh what would your daughter like to drink etc etc ) and when he used to go and pick our dds up from school oh your grandads here"! hmm...

But I would do it all again, we were married for over 35 together for over 40yrs

No doubts whatsoever, we have been together since 1963 and it has always been wonderful. We married with no great expectations from life and we just worked together and made the solid marriage we have.
On my wedding day my mother told me that the door would always be open for me to return, my father on the other hand told me I had chosen the man so I had to get on and work at my marriage.
I often wonder if my mother regretted her marriage, she never seemed happy.

Unusually for the time, marriage was the last thing that figured anywhere in my life plans until I met DH. I led him a bit of a dance before eventually saying yes, and then only because I woke up to the possibility that we would never see each other again and there would be no second chances. Fifty one years down the line, I have never regretted it.

I had no doubts until the night of our wedding day when I realised that my wedding ring felt like a lead weight on my finger. I should have heeded that warning and run for the hills but I didn't. 27 years later I finally escaped.

no doubts,my lovely Dad asked me on the way to the church...he said if you have even the smallest doubt I'll tell the driver to turn round and take us home ,we need never speak of it again.I told him I was sure this was right for me and for my OH.43 years later I feel the same way,I wouldn't change him for the world We've come through some awful things but we're stronger for it

After going out together for 4 yrs since I was 16 we married when I was 20.had my daughter when 22 and divorced when I was 25 things just went wrong once we lived together.
I met my OH when I was 26 and we have been married for 42yrs this next March with 2 more sons.
He is my rock and has always been a great father to all our children and grandpa to the DGCs,nothing is too much trouble and he has supported me in every thing I have wanted to do without question.So no mistakes there.

I am bordering on envy but so happy to learn of long happy marriages here

P.s. We have been married 53 years next week

We married very young. 19 and 20. I was pregnant and many people said it would not last. We have grown up together and are real friends as well as husband and wife. We have two great children and have proved the doubters wrong.

The Wonderful Man I married was as different from me as is possible; I was from the underclass, he was very middle class; I was terminally poor, he had savings (!!); I was divorced, he was single; I was 32, he was 23; his home life had been stable, mine was chaotic. I loved the bones of him and he was my best friend and I believed that, and the Christian faith that we had in common, would be enough for us to make a success of our marriage. And so it has proved - I had no doubts and neither did he and 31 years later we have endured many difficulties, but always pulled together and I still love him to pieces, as he does me.

If I had any doubts I wouldn't have got married.

I had a terrible sense of foreboding about two weeks before I married. My mother had pushed me into it but I did love him, though I wasn't "in love". It was a disaster, which limped along until I divorced him after 11 years. Sadly I never met anyone else I wanted to marry.

First time I must have known we weren’t a good match if my diary was anything to be believed but I was desperate to leave home so clearly ignored common sense. That marriage lasted less than 5 years by which time I was 24 and had two sons. 20 years later I began again but although we are/are a much better match I still wondered if my heart was ruling my head. But the worries didn’t last long and we’ve been married happily ever since. No regrets.

When we got married in 1969, in my head I gave it ten years. Then aged 21, I couldn't envisage life further ahead than that at the time. My OH wasn't at all sure (he has told me since) but in the car after the wedding, he says had a good feeling that he'd done the right thing.

The thing is, for me it wasn't a great passion or anything. I just felt I could cope with his 'ways' and felt secure and comfortable being with him. We celebrate 49 years on 4th January, so something must have been right for us.

I'll most likely be back on here later in 2018 to ask for ideas to celebrate our golden wedding. I doubt our DSs will come up with any surprises....

I had no doubts whatever before I married, but plenty after hence my single status for the last 20 years ?

Yes I did although I really did love him.

We were married 10 years, 2 sons...he gave every indication he did not like being a family man with responsibilities.

Wish he'd told me that before we bought a house and had children. I let him go, he was making us all miserable.

I once asked my husband if he had ever thought of divorcing me... his reply was -divorce no ....murder on the other hand! Still married after more than forty years.

No doubts at all and no regrets 38 years on, my mother on the other hand....

My parents were totally against my first marriage but we had two lovely children and were reasonably happy for about18 years till the demon drink gradually got him. I left after 28 years and he died about two and a half years later.
With number two we got on well although from very different backgrounds. Not always easy but gradually settled in and we are now 22 years married. I find it helps to pick your battles and if it is not a huge deal to me then I let it go.
Yesterday my only DGD got engaged - 80 years to the day after my parents became engaged. They had 58 happy years and died three weeks exactly apart. I hope she has the same settled happiness.

I had no doubts whatsoever, we got on extremely well and I thought I had found my soul mate. This was 1975. Nine years later and two children, he left as he decided he was gay.

He is still with that same man now!

I often wonder if we would still be together now if he had been straight, as I meet him occasionally now at family occasions, and wonder what I saw in him at all!

Didnt think about it all - I just fancied him to death.

Luckily, we have developed and aged together. We love each other, look out for each other, like each other, laugh a lotvand still fancy each other - just not quite so often as in 1970!

As I said previously, I never had any doubts and I was lucky to find my soul mate. Like all couples we had our differences but we were able to talk them through and made our understanding of each other better. We didn't have children so didn't have the stresses and worries they can create (as well as the joys!) but I think if we had our marriage would have been just as strong. I still miss him every day.

Yes, I had a few doubts and, 45 years on, I still do from time to time! But we both knew from the beginning that we'd found The One and nobody ever said it would be easy. Compromise is a skill that has to be learned and we're still learning. It's a bumpy road but, so far, love and goodwill have won out over obduracy, bloody-mindedness and cussedness (on both sides).

We lived together for about two years before we were married, so it wasn't a shock! I wasn't very keen on getting married really, would have been happy to just live together. We are very different people but have muddled through somehow. If it weren't for the kids, I think we would have drifted apart and split up. But I would probably do it all again, if I had the chance to go back (perish the thought). Now D.H. developing memory problems and I'm wondering how I shall cope.