Did you have doubts before you got married, and how did it turn out?

Oh yes the first time I knew it was completely wrong but my parents wanted me off their hands and respectable - lasted 6 years with many break ups along the way. Been married to number 2 for 39 years but still had doubts to begin with and many ups and downs along the way. We're OK now.

Never had a doubt - he was my soul mate and we had over 40 happy years together

No doubts but my husband died eight years after we married, I like to think we would have continued to be as happy as we were then.

Yes I had doubts and as it happens it turned out rubbish but I stuck it out for 22yrs but have now web very happy with my second hubby for over 20 yrs

Some others had doubts as my H and I were very young but we loved each other very much and that love grew stronger.
He started to change after about 40 years and I believe that was the start of his dementia although it wasn't recognisable for some years.
Now he is a different person and one I often don't like.
Would I do it again,probably.

Some were surprise DH and I got married as we're so very different. We've had a couple of sticky patches but we're still together after 47 years

I never believe couples who say they have had a troubles-free marriage. Living in close contact with someone takes a lot of compromises.

We have managed 53 years married (next July) but it has not been without some ups and downs.
We married young and have aged together and I think having children and grandchildren has cemented the marriage well and truly together.

Would I do it all again? Probably.

I had serious doubts right up to and including the actual wedding day, but we still managed 32 years together. Not particularly happy ones though.

We had no doubts at all. We were young and very much in love. There have been ups and downs but we have survived 50 years together.

When I got married (1958) it was "the thing to do" in your early 20s. Most of my friends were already married, so I went with the current boyfriend - we did have a lot in common. My parents were always against it, and they were right.
It didn't last long, but we have 3 lovely children.
I put a bit more thought into my second marriage:
www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ke8YS53swJc

No doubts at all and we're still together nearly 43 yrs later.
I had doubts about my DD's marriage, I did ask if she was sure when I was paying the deposit for the reception. They seperated after 6 yrs.

Yes I had doubts, but then I have had misgivings about almost everything I have done. Mostly very happy and we usually agree about important things.

A friend said she needed a brandy to give her courage before she walked down the aisle and her marriage has not been terribly happy to put it mildly.

We lived together for about two years before we were married, so it wasn't a shock! I wasn't very keen on getting married really, would have been happy to just live together. We are very different people but have muddled through somehow. If it weren't for the kids, I think we would have drifted apart and split up. But I would probably do it all again, if I had the chance to go back (perish the thought). Now D.H. developing memory problems and I'm wondering how I shall cope.

Yes, I had a few doubts and, 45 years on, I still do from time to time! But we both knew from the beginning that we'd found The One and nobody ever said it would be easy. Compromise is a skill that has to be learned and we're still learning. It's a bumpy road but, so far, love and goodwill have won out over obduracy, bloody-mindedness and cussedness (on both sides).

As I said previously, I never had any doubts and I was lucky to find my soul mate. Like all couples we had our differences but we were able to talk them through and made our understanding of each other better. We didn't have children so didn't have the stresses and worries they can create (as well as the joys!) but I think if we had our marriage would have been just as strong. I still miss him every day.

Didnt think about it all - I just fancied him to death.

Luckily, we have developed and aged together. We love each other, look out for each other, like each other, laugh a lotvand still fancy each other - just not quite so often as in 1970!

I had no doubts whatsoever, we got on extremely well and I thought I had found my soul mate. This was 1975. Nine years later and two children, he left as he decided he was gay.

He is still with that same man now!

I often wonder if we would still be together now if he had been straight, as I meet him occasionally now at family occasions, and wonder what I saw in him at all!

My parents were totally against my first marriage but we had two lovely children and were reasonably happy for about18 years till the demon drink gradually got him. I left after 28 years and he died about two and a half years later.
With number two we got on well although from very different backgrounds. Not always easy but gradually settled in and we are now 22 years married. I find it helps to pick your battles and if it is not a huge deal to me then I let it go.
Yesterday my only DGD got engaged - 80 years to the day after my parents became engaged. They had 58 happy years and died three weeks exactly apart. I hope she has the same settled happiness.

No doubts at all and no regrets 38 years on, my mother on the other hand....

I once asked my husband if he had ever thought of divorcing me... his reply was -divorce no ....murder on the other hand! Still married after more than forty years.

Yes I did although I really did love him.

We were married 10 years, 2 sons...he gave every indication he did not like being a family man with responsibilities.

Wish he'd told me that before we bought a house and had children. I let him go, he was making us all miserable.

I had no doubts whatever before I married, but plenty after hence my single status for the last 20 years ?

When we got married in 1969, in my head I gave it ten years. Then aged 21, I couldn't envisage life further ahead than that at the time. My OH wasn't at all sure (he has told me since) but in the car after the wedding, he says had a good feeling that he'd done the right thing.

The thing is, for me it wasn't a great passion or anything. I just felt I could cope with his 'ways' and felt secure and comfortable being with him. We celebrate 49 years on 4th January, so something must have been right for us.

I'll most likely be back on here later in 2018 to ask for ideas to celebrate our golden wedding. I doubt our DSs will come up with any surprises....

First time I must have known we weren’t a good match if my diary was anything to be believed but I was desperate to leave home so clearly ignored common sense. That marriage lasted less than 5 years by which time I was 24 and had two sons. 20 years later I began again but although we are/are a much better match I still wondered if my heart was ruling my head. But the worries didn’t last long and we’ve been married happily ever since. No regrets.