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Oh Teddy, that's awful. Even if the other Dr had explained it carefully it's still a massive shock, but just to make a blunt statement was callous. Was there any indication of waiting times?

Well done on dealing with your son. It must be hard for you, but you have enough to worry about at the moment. Best wishes to you both.

Some doctors are the pits at communication. I'm sorry that you had such an appalling breaking of such bad news. My best wishes to you.

Teddy your fortitude does you credit, but you don't say if there is someone in real life that can support you. I do hope that you have some family or friends who you can share these troubling times with.

Saw consultant yesterday,he said,'Well you know what you've got,my colleague has left a message that he discussed it with you'.He hadn't,he haid just said ,you have cancer of the lung.
He said he will send him for another lung function test,then refer him to surgeon to operate.
Son has phoned 20 times for money.We haven't answered the phone.

Teddy111, you have your answer now as to why he is being a monster to you. My husband is also a very unwell man and treats me in a similar way. He is not tight with his money but loses his temper in seconds and is constantly telling me to f* off. He is very difficult to live with and I feel caged at times.

Oooh Teddy keeping you both in thoughts and prayers!

Teddy111 I cannot imagine how I would cope had I your multitude of stresses and strains to deal with. You are a remarkable lady. Is there any other family member that could offer you the comfort of support throughout this crisis? Please continue to look after yourself.

Hope someone comes out to the heating soon. A good idea with the layers of clothing. Keep your head warm and that keeps the heat in. Hot drinks and warming food too. Do you have family/friends you could go to if the emergency continues?

Heating went off during the night.We have left message on heating engineers answer phone.Four layers of clothing on and a big fluffy scarf each.
Letter arrived this morning for an appt with thoracic surgeon for Thursday next week.Thank you all again for your comments and kindness.Bit shaky,I don't know if it is the cold or fear.

Goodness Teddy, what a distressing time you're having but perhaps the effects of some of the conditions explain a little of why he was behaving the way he was. If he's not to work at all that will take some getting used to and with all the other stuff going on it will be difficult not to get emotional.

But what about you? Do take care of yourself.

Well, if nothing else Teddy, your DH is certainly getting a full MOT, let's just hope he is going to get a full service too! My thoughts are with you. Good luck with the test results.

Oh gosh indeed Teddy. What a time you are having! Never seems to rain but it pours.
Always remember though - this too shall pass. That always gets me through. Good luck.

Last Saturday night,appt with dentist revealed infection in gum, where tooth had been extracted.Monday evening,two and a half hours in MRI scan.It said it would be over an hour.Tuesday morning,appt with cardiologist,he said one artery to heart is diseased and will need attention,he is not to do any work at all and not to get emotional.They will see him in a year. Waiting to hear about last weeks lung function test,CT scan and this weeks MRI. Next week, blood test for diabetes,then appt with diabetic nurse.Oh gosh.

Teddy, has he had a brain scan? Perhaps you could mention his behaviour to the doctors and ask if that would be arranged.

As we get through this weekend Teddy my thoughts will be for you and your DH.

I wish both of you, the very best outcome.Thinking of you.

I'm so very sorry Teddy to read all that you and your husband are going through. Mr. S. and I are anxiously awaiting his biopsy next week and then the wait for the results.

Feeling the way I do at the moment I have nothing but admiration for your courage.

Thank you,I know there are so many people waiting for treatment and tests,we are lucky to get an appointment for Monday.

How awful, Teddy and no doubt the weekend will drag by. Nobody's fault but just not what you want to hear at the moment.

My DIL was waiting a week for tests to see if she is going through the menopause early (they want another baby) and on the day the tests were due back, she got a phone call to say that the test was no good. She was absolutely side-swiped at the thought of waiting another month for another test.

Both of us awake in the night,don't want to miss alarm.
Twenty three miles away,half way there to MRI scan,08.15,phone call to say cancelled,problem with contrast medium. Appointment for Monday at 5.30pm.
More toothache,appt this evening at 7.30pm.Thank you Cherrytree ,as you say,one day at a time.

Difficult times for you both.
Wishing you both strength to get through the next few days.
I think at the moment it will be just a case of taking one day at a time.

Went for Lung Function test this a.m .They don't tell you anything. CT scan in the morning. MRI Friday,early morning. Thankyou all for your kind comments.

Just caught up with your news and wishing you strength to help you through the coming weeks. What a nightmare with his teeth as well as the cancer diagnosis. The experts really can do wonderful things now. Thinking of you both. x

How very frightening for the both of you and probably a trying journey ahead. My thoughts are with you.

I'm sorry to hear that Teddy; it could be that fear was behind it as newnanny said and being unable to talk about it in a rational way with fear and anger coming out against those nearest to him.