Thanks to all ladies.
The confidence things was about making phone calls, gong out, speaking to general strangers like people working in shops or offices. I was also a nervy shaking wreck at first when he would put an arm round me. I am a lot better now.
We spend nights together sometimes. He is still working and doing shifts, so time is not all ours.
We talk about everything.
It appears that inside we think is OK, The problem is the actual entry! (Sorry to be graphic)
Neither of us wants to damage or pain the other.
Perhaps a bit of fear.
I will speak to lady GP and live in hope of this working out somehow.
Thanks to all