Jeanie99 Very well done you, you sound like a lovely kind hearted person, your mother was very lucky to have you as a daughter and your H&D sound just as nice. xx
Read the posts janeainsworth Cassandra was talking about someone else's mother, not her own and I spoke of the manager of the home, not the daughter.
123flump your right about those suffering with dementia being different, my mother was as sweet and gentle as she had always been and seemed quite happy. She couldn't speak sadly, but as I visited most days she def still knew me and her face would light up when I arrived. Who is the relative Fluff you never say, an auntie perhaps?
My mum was at the home for 4yrs and in that time I made friends with another family that visited regularly [still friends today, 8yrs on] Their father had Alzheimer's disease and was quite different to my dear mum, he could at times be difficult and a bit violent, but they loved him so, and would never dream of abandoning him. There was another lady that lived in the home, I didn't know her or her family that visited, but she was destructive when ever she entered the room and her family had great trouble trying to control her, I felt very sorry for them as they were trying their best with her and obviously still loved her, disputed her impossible behaviour.
I have always thought that with Dementia the person is gentle and quite child like, whereas with Alzheimer's they are aggressive and not too pleasant at times. But I don't know if I'm correct in saying that, just going by the people I have seen with the two different diseases. I know they both come under the same umbrella of brain disease, and in each category one can be quite different to the other, all individual .