I am so sad and anxious about my daughter. She is nearly 41 and like so many of her generation has put career first and , whilst always wanting to have a family, believed she could leave it until she was 40 years old. Two years ago she met and fell in love with a wonderful and loving man, already a father of 2 and divorced. He is devoted to his daughters and she has fully shared in that side of his life believing that they would have children together and create an extended family. He has now said he doesn't want to have another child at nearly 50 and she is absolutely devastated. I can understand both sides. They are both heart broken at the thought of separating but can't see a way forward together now. She is seeing a counsellor but has lost so much weight and cries so much which is so unlike how she used to be.
I know that things can change suddenly and unexpectedly but I worry now whenever I haven't heard from her for a few days (I live a long way away) and try to keep in touch lightly and not anxiously as I don't want her to feel pressure from me to keep in touch all the time. We are very close and she confides in me about everything and I have learnt to listen and be non judgemental.
Of course, many women struggle with not having children or not being able to get pregnant. I think she is struggling with a deep sense of rejection and hurt and I really don't know what to say to comfort her other than we love her very much and are always here for her.
