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Really really sad

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Luckygirl Thu 25-Jan-18 12:43:05

I am sorry that this feels bad for you just now.

I do not think it is disloyalty really. If you had found a new partner, then he would have become grandpa 2 or whatever in the eyes of the GC. I know it feels like a pain, but that is probably because you are still hurting from the break-up, so this happening has a greater significance to you than it need.

I cannot imagine that anyone has let this deliberately happen to hurt you; but it feels hurtful to you. Don't let this weaken or muddy your relationships with your children - that would be a double whammy, and you can do without that.

Please try and enjoy making a good relationship with the lovely GC, regardless of what they call you. The love is no less, never mind the name. flowers

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crazyH Thu 25-Jan-18 12:36:57

I am heartbroken today. Bear with me when I tell you my story.....about 20 years ago, I divorced due to my husband's affair and they are married now. I have 3 AC , a daughter and 2 sons. Daughter has 2 teenage children. My sons got married recently and have 2 year olds and a baby. Yesterday I was babysitting one of the toddlers and to my shock he referred my ex husband's wife as "Nanna"... I told him I was "Nanna" and in his baby language said, "no 2 Nannas"... I have always been Nanna and it hurts so bad.
My 2 DILs are very, very friendly with my exhusband's wife and I think they are behind this. I feel so betrayed. My sons could have insisted that she is called either grandma or granny, anything except "Nanna" . I don't know whether I'm over-reacting, but I am so hurt......the problem is , all of us live in the same area ......so bdays, and other celebrations become so stressful. I feel like re-settling as far away from family as possible. I don't think I can carry on much longer when I am experiencing such disloyalty .
What do you ladies think ?

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