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Should we interfere?

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eazybee Wed 31-Jan-18 10:48:25

She won't starve or lose her house if you stop paying for holiday flights, completely non-essential.
He sounds like a professional charmer who enjoys a pleasant life at other people's expense, and probably despises them for doing it. Don't give your daughter any more money until she tells you the truth about his financial situation, and if she doesn't know after five years and two children then she should get out, quickly, or accept it and stop moaning about him. Neither way should you continue to facilitate this situation financially.

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ninathenana Wed 31-Jan-18 10:41:10

I could be very wrong and I hope I am but is it possible he's got a second family ?

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tanith Wed 31-Jan-18 10:40:11

Start saying no! You are enabling this man to do what he is doing by constantly paying out. Your daughter is a grown woman and isn't standing on her own two feet. She needs to address the situation with him but while you are putting your hand in your pocket for everything, 'holidays and flights?' whatever next?

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Belinda49 Wed 31-Jan-18 10:13:43

My daughter has her own house where she lives with her partner of 5 years and their 2 young children. He is a self-employed professional man who SEEMS to work all the hours possible but has no money. He owes thousands to her and to us. She supports all of them with extra help from us. He is a pleasant, friendly man, wonderful with the children. We pay for holidays, flights etc., which he cheerfully accepts. She constantly moans to us about her situation with him and we sympathise but don't interfere. She loves to work but expects him to do his bit too. When can we say to him that enough is enough? It is none of our business but she involves us. This situation surely can't continue indefinitely. It's very mysterious. Does he have huge debts to pay off, is he supporting his parents? Who knows. We can't leave her to starve or lose her house because of non-payment of mortgage but this situation surely can't continue - we'll be broke. Advice and solutions please.

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