I'm so scared

Hope Mr S is comfortable this morning and you are less worried. It’s a horrid time for anyone. jane has given good advice, don’t sit fretting if you are concerned, better to get some advice and hopefully reassurance. I’ll be thinking of you both.

smileless I hope MrS is feeling better by now.
Can I just suggest that if you’re worried about anything, if MrS seems pale or in pain or anything, don’t hesitate to phone the ward he was on, or your GP, for advice.
Sometimes all you need is words of reassurance & the knowledge that you’re doing the right thing, to feel better.

Have only opened this thread today, just sending you both my very best wishes

Thanks smilless it kinda made me realise I must t keep hoping for a miracle anymore, but it was a setback to my healing which I don't want for you.

Having said that it could well bring you back together which would be wonderful.
if after sleeping on it you want to let es know I would just se d v short note informing him what's happened or he will be all defensive.

God bless xxxx

I thought I knew how hard it was for you last year C facing major surgery and knowing that your ED knew because Mr. C. had written to her but it only hit me today, how heart breaking it was for you when she didn't get in touch.

Well you're right about that; it's not easy keeping track of you and Mr. C..

Rosie put it so well try stay in here and now and don't jump ahead to stress on what ifs one day at a times xxxx

Bless you Smilelss have sent you pm we out day tomorrow and away Monday I know we job to keep track of.?
I will have my mobile and don't worry be strange if ybut umweren't tearful.

Gosh catheters sound technical so glad he comfier poor chap give him our love and special hugs to you from us both ❤️Xx

it's horrid feeling wanting support from estranged child and knowing it's not there I can totally relate. Just horrid ns in oz.?❤️Xxx

I thought you were away this weekend C and I didn't want to 'phone anyone while Mr. S. was still up because I knew I'd be weepy and I want to be strong for him.

OMG if you're more squeamish than me, you must be really squeamish.

Thanks everyone. They've given him bags and a free flow catheter (I should have known that was the spelling)MawBroom that doesn't require a bag. He can open the 'tap' when he wants to go, they said it's preferable to the bags because he can maintain bladder control. He's home and seems to be managing OK and I'm trying not to worry as he seems to have settled at last.

I took in all the info they gave us and it ended up with the male nurse calling me 'nurse .....'; he was lovely.

That's just how it feels Rosy "clenched fist in my chest" it feels as if someones clenching their fist around my heart and all sense goes out of the window and emotion takes over. I'll try and 'stay in the moment' and be thankful that he's no longer in pain and is here at home with me.

Thank you tina I've had so much wonderful support from GN and it's been wonderful.

Smilless that's awful you should have rung me you aren't alone,

What a worry and well done for being so brave you can't be the most squeamish person I am?

A blockage of any sort preventing urination can be excruciating so your DH has my complete sympathy Smileless as do you as witnessing it can be alarming.
I hope you have been shown how to deal with his catheter (or is he still in hospital). It is important not to let the catheter bag get over full as that can also impede urination.
Do try not to worry. Of course these things are always worst at weekends but your District Nurse is frequently your first port of call and can be really helpful.
Good luck and try to keep calm, I am sure it will be OK.

Sorry to hear about this set back Smileless and that your feeling so vulnerable, I read a your posts and I always find them very upbeat and rational despite what your family difficulties, hope things settle down for you and your husband and when you go to get his results everything goes well?

Oh Smileless how well I know that feeling. I used to call it my ‘clenched fist in my chest’ feeling. We had many emergency trips to A&E, which often resulted in my coming home alone. Like you, I never contacted my son, and felt like I was the last person on earth.

I have no words of advice, because this man is your whole world...and that world is being turned upside down. All I will say is, try to stay in the moment. Don’t let your imagination run away with you. I spent many hours worrying about things that actually never happened...well not until the last time obviously.

I’m sending love and positive thoughts...Rosy.x.

No results yet etheltbags; still waiting. Thank you for your good wishes.

Im just reading this today so by now you may have results. Hope all goes well.

I was scared when I started this thread but not nearly as scared as I've been today.

Mr. S. woke me at 7.00 am, so pale and in so much pain he could hardly stand. We spent the morning at the hospital and they fitted a catheta (sorry if I've spelled that incorrrectly)which he has to have for 2 weeks.

He had a blood clot so was unable to urinate, his bladder was full and his belly distended. I don't know who was more afraid, him or me.

Our DS is in Oz, just 4.5 months into the breakdown of his marriage so we haven't even told him about his dad's biopsy so not to worry him. We've been estranged from his brother for more than 5 years so no comfort or support to be found there.

He's back home, he's got his colour back and I even managed not to faint when they were getting him ready to leave and I saw how much blood he'd passed. I'm the most squeamish person I know. Mr. S. was very impressed with my outward composure.

I'm just finding it rather difficult. I feel so alone, vulnerable and scared. I know it's silly but it would be so much easier if we still had our ES and things were the way they used to be and if our DS wasn't on the other side of the world.

Hoping all will go well. Don’t ever let worry about the future spoil the present.

Smileless and Mr S wishing you both all the best. X

Onwards and upwards Smileless hope everything goes well for you when you get the results ?

It’s always good to talk smileless hope all goes well for you both.

Thank you MissAdventure and Synonymous.

It certainly helped us both talking about it instead of trying to be brave cornergran and we both had a good night's sleep.

Sending you very best wishes and ((hugs)) smileless and hope you both have a very good night and everything will start to look so much brighter.

As you say first medical hurdle smileless, how relieved you must be that the day is over, I wonder though if much more than that has been achieved as you and your very much loved husband have been honest with each other, a very important hurdle. Wishing you both a peaceful night and sending my love and good wishes. Sleep well.

Phew! Best wishes to you both.

Well the first hurdle has been dealt with and Mr. S. is home, a little worse for wear but home safe and sound.

We don't have much info. It was small but we don't know if they've removed it all but I think they must have. Now we must wait for the results but I'm just relieved that today is over and he's back home, all safely tucked up in bed and sleeping like a baby.