I'm so scared

Brilliant comments here smileless so I can add nothing but a big hug!

Just sending you both very best wishes * Smileless*
I know very well how you are feeling.
I had tests for breast cancer and the week between the biopsy and the results were dreadful. Huge highs when convinced it would be ok and deep lows with the dread it would be bad news.
It was bad news but 18 years on I am here and fine.
Keep talking to each other, supporting each other and reassuring each other. Keep us posted.

Dear Smileless I do feel for you. Whatever the future held (and paw had incurable longer term issues as well as regular short term crises - he knew the score) I was always one of those “OK let’s deal with this one now and cross the other bridges when we come to them” it was my way of putting one foot in front of the other.
However...and I know we are all different, I also wish I had sometimes admitted my fears for the future instead of doing my crying only in private.
Just to hold hands, admit you are worried and scared, to let him admit it too and then say that whatever comes you will face up to it TOGETHER.
All this being brave and stiff upper lip malarkey is overrated.
By all means be optimistic and remember that more men die WITH prostate cancer than FROM it. All may well be fine and if not the next question to the medics is “Right, what are you going to do about it” but just for now, be honest with each other, then have a hug and face the day with a smile.
If only I had a second chance to do that last bit

I'm sorry to hear about your problems Smileless it's a big worry I know. Take heart from my husband's case, he has had treatment for bladder and prostate cancer over the last 12 years. It's not been very comfortable for him at times but he continues to be active and enjoy life to the full. Do hope things turn out well for your husband too.

Sending positive and warm thoughts to you and Mr S Smileless. We have loved one's with advanced PC, living well several years after diagnosis. The treatments seem to be more effective with every passing year. One man was diagnosed 6 years ago as having advanced PC, palliative care only. Such a shock at the time but he is remains fit and active and has had a number of different treatments. Early diagnosis is usually a positive. Look after yourselves.

Hoping all will be well and sending my best wishes to you both. I understand the feelings you are having.

Smileless yours is a wonderful story of a love that's spanned many years and I'm wishing you both through this anxious time and many more happy years together. xx

I so understand your anxiety, and your love for your husband as I feel the same.My husbands brother has just been diagnosed with prostate cancer, but has other problems too and has been told his prostate is the least of his worries at the moment as there is lots they can do.I'm just sat here at the moment reading up about it and wondering how I can get my husband to the doctor for a test, it's not going to be easy.The best of luck to you both .

I’m struggling with what to say to you too. I don’t know anything about prostrate problems but Polyester post seems positive, so perhaps you can hold on to that. In your shoes I’d be scared. Hold on tight to each other, keep planning your future and looking forward to holidays and let us know how things go. It’ll be a long hard week Smileless and I’ll be thinking about you and looking out for future posts.

Prostrate problems are common in men of a certain age and prostrate cancer can be treated quite successfully. Please don´t worry. You are lucky to have caught the problem through a routine check. Believe that all will be alright. We have been through a similar scare recently, but it turned out to be OK, just to be monitored regularly. It is lovely that you were able to turn to each other for support. Fingers crossed.

Echoing what MissA said Smileless.

Sending hugs xx

I'm not surprised you feel afraid, and I'm so sorry. I wish I had words to comfort you, but I'm struggling.
Whatever happens, the worst result, or the best, you will have each other to lean on, and will draw strength from the other. sending you both all my best wishes x