Kind helpful suport with moving on from family estrangement

Thanks star lady i thought so eryone welcome but focus on Kindness and positivity

Yes so sad for twin I felt that too dies he not contact his brother at all Cornish su! X

Good idea to start a new support thread, celeb!

Sue, your post about es' birthday brought tears to my eyes. His poor twin!

But you told us on the other thread that es contacts his sister sometimes. Does he not contact his twin brother? Not even to say, "Happy Birthday?" My heart hurts just thinking about it.

Thanks cornishsue interesting yourvyour estranged son being twin I have twin brother and we have very strong bond

Its sad for them to be apart sorry for that.

After 9 years I no longer seriously expect a card but always a shred of hipe
We are reaxing thanks dh just opened cards and is pleased with gifts I chose xx

Dh birthday today and alwasymfeel hurt for him if only our daughter could send him a card, even if she doesn't want reconnect with me

Birthdays, well any special days, are always so hard. Memories of what once was, that little bit of hope that maybe this year will be different and no matter what the celebration the knowledge there is always something missing.

My estranged son is a twin and his brother (still living at home) has never really celebrated his birthday since. Because the twins birthday fell during a school holiday, when they were younger, we would often go on holiday that week, letting them chose what attraction to visit, or what to do, on the actual day itself. Lots of lovely memories of their 8th birthday in Disneyland Paris, 10th in Italy, 16th in Crete, 18th in the Canary Islands and so on. But since then the twin at home prefers to let his birthday pass quietly, wondering if his twin (who has learning difficulties) remembers those holidays like he does.

I feel for your husband and hope he manages to have a lovely day anyway.

I think caring and kindness go a long way and by reading your posts, you’re full of it. I could never cope with what you do, you’re an incredibly strong lady. ? thought you might like these

Thank you for such lovely words, though I am unsure that I am worthy of them. But I truly appreciate them none the less.

Maddyone has your daughter got post natal depression if you don't mind me asking?

It's an awful thing I know as I had it both times amd first time I was very ill. They call it something else now
I do hope she is recovering and/or gets help she needs.

I am wondering if I need up my dosage as feel very down in mornings still. Dh birthday today and alwasymfeel hurt for him if only our daughter could send him a card, even if she doesn't want reconnect with me,

However mustn't be negative our son called at weekend. And promises ring again today ?Henisnoff Afghanistan agin wed?For 2 weeks I have try be strong for that,

Well it's wet chilly here on coast we now going have coffee and dh can open his cards!

Thanks Alexa sadly the other thread had become too stuck in the negatative.

Of course it isn't 123flump I am so pleased about your d i law.
We love positive news on this thread!
However we are also here for anyone who needs listening ear!

Celebgran, your initiative is good to apply to all the agony requests for help , advice , comment, and moral support.

Responders are not helping by feeling sorry for someone in trouble, or feeling outraged by the other woman, erring husband and so on. One thing that most people need is reassurance that what they are experiencing is normal human experience however unpleasant it be.

Hello everyone, madgran you are most definitely welcome here, or on any of the threads about estrangement. You know why you fear estrangement, you are obviously aware of something that makes you fear it. Has estrangement been threatened, if you don’t mind me asking? I’m not estranged from my daughter and grandchildren now, but we were for a while. We did see them at a few family events, but whilst it was lovely to see the children, it wasn’t very pleasant with my daughter and her husband. However, my daughter is ill and we are no longer estranged. Once it has happened, you know it could happen again. Has it happened before to you?

Some good news for the new thread. My exDIL got her results and all is well, the operation was a success, they got it all and she is recovering well.

I thought some positive news would be good, hope it isn't considered off topic.

It's lovely see you posting already ladies anyone is welcome on here, only requirement is kindness if possible!

I am not estranged but fear it greatly. I hope it is ok to join you as hearing from people who have experienced it helps me to think about where things are at for me

Hello Cornishsue1, lovely to meet you again! I’ve found the ladies on the estrangement threads to be very helpful and kind. I was totally lost with my ED and very comforting to listen to the advice and experiences of those who have gone through it and somehow it really does help knowing you’re not alone. I think caring and kindness go a long way and by reading your posts, you’re full of it. I could never cope with what you do, you’re an incredibly strong lady. ? thought you might like these.

I would love to join you. I have often found in life that when something unpleasant comes along, there is something pleasant to follow. And being able to chat to you lovely people is that something pleasant for sure. So here I am. And hello everyone!

Maddyone madgran mrsmeptop sorry trying remember everyone.

I do hope lucklylegs, smilless, cornishsue violet floss, flump123 rhinestone and anyone who needs support and wants to be positive fairydoll, sorry if forgotten anyone please feel free post, anyone new welcome.