Dh birthday today and alwasymfeel hurt for him if only our daughter could send him a card, even if she doesn't want reconnect with me
Birthdays, well any special days, are always so hard. Memories of what once was, that little bit of hope that maybe this year will be different and no matter what the celebration the knowledge there is always something missing.
My estranged son is a twin and his brother (still living at home) has never really celebrated his birthday since. Because the twins birthday fell during a school holiday, when they were younger, we would often go on holiday that week, letting them chose what attraction to visit, or what to do, on the actual day itself. Lots of lovely memories of their 8th birthday in Disneyland Paris, 10th in Italy, 16th in Crete, 18th in the Canary Islands and so on. But since then the twin at home prefers to let his birthday pass quietly, wondering if his twin (who has learning difficulties) remembers those holidays like he does.
I feel for your husband and hope he manages to have a lovely day anyway.