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Mother's Day and Family Dynamics

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crazyH Sat 03-Mar-18 21:26:10

That's lovely ......so your weekend+ is going to be a great few days. So many invites...very nice to the Mils to invite you for Mother's Day.
Happy Birthday in anticipation of your BIG ? ??

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Melanie61 Sat 03-Mar-18 21:23:17

I am also conscious of my family's 'other mums'
My two Ddil' mums and also my daughter has Mil.
They are all mums themselves too! We all therefore going out with them all on the Saturday evening before Mother's Day.
They can then do what they need to do on the day itself, and I will have my special time with them all the evening before.
It takes the pressure off them, and me also.

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MawBroon Sat 03-Mar-18 21:06:26

Oh the emotional baggage of Mothers Day .
Complicated here because Sunday 11 March is also DD’s birthday, Sat 10th is SIL’s birthday, Monday 12 is DD2’ s MIL’s birthday and Tuesday 13th is my (big) birthday.
We are compromising! I am meeting up with DD1 and her family and DD3 in London while DD2 goes to her MIL (who has early Alzheimer’s)
I will see DD2 and 3 on my birthday and everybody will be coming here (well a nearby pub) for my birthday lunch which will be the following Sunday.
Like Christmas, best over!
(But very sweetly, I was invited to 2 of the MILS’ for Mother’s Day as they were afraid I would be on my own. )

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crazyH Sat 03-Mar-18 21:00:08

That's right Lemongrove ..life was so uncomplicated then !

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crazyH Sat 03-Mar-18 20:58:16

MissAdventure ..Would have loved to hear your mean spirited comment ...I can take it ..go on try again, ha

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MissAdventure Sat 03-Mar-18 20:51:25

It's not smug. Its lovely. smile

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nanaK54 Sat 03-Mar-18 20:50:21

Oh dear that does all sound a little smug - apologies

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nanaK54 Sat 03-Mar-18 20:48:39

Dh and I will visit his mum, she is a lovely lady......
I am sure that our sons and our daughters-in-law will visit at some point
Other that I have no idea......
My lovely daughters-in-law will, of course be visiting their own mums and they are mums too
I'm sure it will all work out smile

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lemongrove Sat 03-Mar-18 20:45:55

MissA flowers wine and CrazyH and to all Grandmothers on Mothers Day who won’t have any celebrations.
Look back on your happy memories of when the children were small.

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MissAdventure Sat 03-Mar-18 20:39:26

I'm totally unsure what my dynamics will be this year, and I did write out a mean spirited answer to you. But.. happy mothers day. I hope you do enjoy it. flowers

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crazyH Sat 03-Mar-18 20:34:35

With Mother's Day fast approaching , I was wondering how you get round the family dynamics. For years I was the only mother in the family, and I was at the centre of the day. My own mother was in another country, my ex husband's mother had passed away ...similarly for Fathers Day there was only him to consider.
NOW...I am divorced, my divorced daughter is a mother of 2 children, my 2 adult boys are married and their wives are mothers themselves, then of course, the daughtersinlaw have mothers. So how do you work around this. My eldest son is going away for that weekend (easy way out)- I'll probably get a card. Last year, my daughter , myself and her children went out for a meal. I got cards from the boys. Didn't get anything from dinlaws , not even a text message. I can understand...they have their own mother's and grandmothers, and they are not close to me anyway. Our relationships are hanging by a thread. I know I'm going to think of all the old mother's days when I was the centre of it all.....selfish me
My ideal Mother's Day Celebration will be the whole family all the mothers , dilaws mother's , grandmothers all having a lovely meal together and loads of Prossecco..... it remains just that ....A WISH !!!!!

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