My OH has a sister whom we seldom see, and certainly not for the many years that she lived abroad. Relations have been a bit strained as she is very scatty and a bit unreliable - there have also been incidents over the years that have been hard to swallow (e.g. getting her Dad to go and live abroad with them, using his money to help renovate their property and then ringing us up and saying he was dying and she was sending him back to live with us!!! - that was quite a pickle to sort out. And suggesting to her Dad that she should leave all his money to the GC and bypass us as we "had plenty of money" - I wish!)
Anyway, we do not see much of her; and I have taken these incidents on the chin as I cannot be bothered to have aggro in the family.
Last time she visited she said she would be staying one night and not to bother to cook as she would bring food. She arrived with one cake and stayed two nights! - quite comic really; but you can see why I never really take what she says at face value.
We have never had any sort of argument and I have just kept the peace, as any sort of rift would be very hard for my OH.
Some of you who have read my other thread will understand that things have been very difficult this last week or so - bad dose of flu for both of us (a big problem with OH's PD) and a night in hospital for me after collapsing and being unconscious for 15 minutes. SIL and hubby were due to come this Friday, staying two nights in a B&B nearby and "just popping in for 5 minutes" - which I happily took with a pinch of salt as I know how she operates.
OH and I talked this over and decided to ask them to postpone their visit as neither of us have the strength for visitors - we are just about getting by here. And it seemed better to give them a bit of notice to cancel the B&B.
I have just received the most extraordinarily vitriolic email from her about this - I am completely gobsmacked as I think most people would understand the situation.
Here is a little sample.....".Do you think I don't know how it feels to be unwashed and ill and out of control? Do you think it diminishes you or makes me feel superior? You have decided I cannot possibly offer you any kind of comfort in your situation. You seem to think you are the only giver. Do you realise how hurtful that is? You have decided it is better to make me feel hurt and rejected - and not for the first time - in order to 'protect' yourselves from me. Which means you think I am nothing but a burden and a strain. Thanks a lot. Why would coming in for a few minutes be an unbearable strain? I am not a stranger."
I have to think of a polite reply, which will be hard, but I refuse to have my OH upset over this, which he is.
best wishes
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