Daughter problems!

If you know that the texts and calls will be upsetting, then don’t look at them, whatever problems you have need to be sorted face to face.
Without knowing what the issues are I can’t comment on anything else that would help you.

I m not sure anyone can help with your query as there is nothing really to go on There could be a dozens reasons/questions/ answers but nothing to hang your hat on from that little introduction

You do not really give us much information to go on, but I stopped regular payments to my children when they graduated from university. After that I expected them to manage for themselves and when they returned home, if they had any money coming in at all they made at least a token payment towards their keep.

I have given them money since but in a very ad hoc way, nothing they can rely on. Neither of my DC would dream of demanding money or favours from me and have never ever abused me online or to my face.

Usually when parents are in your position it is because they have always given their children everything they want and the children consider that they have a right to get everything they want and kick up a stink if they do not get it. If that is your case turn off the tap and keep it off until she learns to act her age and support herself.

Any help you give your DGD is different, unless your daughter starts using emotional blackmail.

Why are you giving your DD an allowance? Is there a good reason? Why, in that case, is she writing upsetting things to and about you?

We perhaps need a bit more information before we can say what we think of the situation.

You can block WhatsApp...

I know I havnt given to much away, but just feel dejected about the situation, it would would be quite a long message to explain it all, and as I don't talk to people about them, I just wanted a listening ear. Can't help wish her dad was still hear talk to about it .

Well don't worry about making a long post if you think it will help Spentwidow. I assume that the break you've booked for her and your GD in August is being paid for by you.

There does seem to be a lot of AC with an unhealthy sense of entitlement these days and the expectation that the 'bank of mum and dad', or in your case the 'bank of mum' is a bottomless pit or we're cultivating money trees in our gardens.

Perhaps you could re think your willingness to make a monthly contribution until she learns to appreciate your support and treat you with some respect.

You are so right Smileless2012 that little word respect goes such a long way and this OPs DD sounds very entitled to me she needs to be told no and for it to mean no.

Life must be very difficult when you are left to deal with all the problems with your daughter on your own as you no longer have her father to help and advise.

Is there no-one else in your family or a very close friend you can trust sufficiently to discuss with them how your DD is behaving and how to deal with it?

Thanks for all your input I have now spoken to her and put over my point of view ,but have taken on your advice and will apply it quite soon. I do have a partner to discuss things with, but don't like to burden him with it all to much, as he's been through worse with his ex .