Driving at speed.

Well, I think part of a 'speed awareness' course should be that regular passengers should have to attend too.
Sure that would be a popular idea.
I'd better hide now.

For months at the end of last year I kept telling my husband it was only a matter of time before he got caught for speeding AGAIN. He frightens me to death and I do not enjoy going out with him. Every time I mentioned it he got very shirty and told me he wasn't and that he had learned his lesson from the time before. Surprise surprise at the beginning of December a letter arrived for him informing him that he had been captured speeding on our stretch of road. I give up!

Love the idea of being the Queen Mum! I try everything to stop myself from clinging to the door for dear life but still do it. And my husband’s a great driver but my anxiety is dreadful.

My husband drives well. As I’ve gotten older I’ve become a bit of a nervous passenger. Not nice for either of us really. So, I’ve taken to sitting in the back like the Queen Mum!

I just don't agree with breaking the speed limit. I also think that there should be restrictions on the capacity for modern cars to be able to reach ridiculously high speeds. We live in times where traffic congestion is a fact of life and almost every time you venture onto the motorways there is someone belting along and acting in a cavalier and bullying way and not taking into account the road conditions and amount of traffic around. My sister had a problem with her husband driving fast and braking at the last minute. She now says to him "please drive in a way that we can both enjoy the ride". There are some thoughtless gits around.

"getting at me" is a popular come-back from a male who wants a female to shut up for fear she'll be called a "nag".
So she shuts up and he gets his own way.
Yes, pathetic of both of them.

You cannot criticise the driving of a male - it is like telling them their penis is not up to the mark. It is seriously pathetic that telling a fellow adult that you would be happier if they slowed down a bit is "getting at" them.

In my humble opinion many speed limits are unreasonable and are there simply to generate income. It's perfectly legal to race around country lanes at ridiculous speeds, yet motorways are restricted to 70. Bonkers!

Has anyone been watching the "100 yr old drivers"!!! oh myyy........ theres was one this week who admitted driving at speed!! round bends etc at one point he was on other side of the road but maybe it was dual carriageway I couldnt really tell.
I do wonder about their reaction times if something was round a bend or person crossing the country road or walkers etc.yet the driving examiners seemed to pass most of them with flying colours! one or two have bad it sujested they hang up their car keys. (soz if its already been mentioned nto read all the thread n dashing off to work)

I think a passenger has every right to make a comment if they are frightened for goodness sake. However,maybe it might make a better point if this lady just refused to get into the car with her husband until he mends his ways. I don't care how good a driver someone is,if they regularly flout speed limits they are a danger to others.

At 12 my daughter lost her best friend ever, because of a speeding driver. My daughter was with her at the time her friend stepped off the pavement.

Never tell that child’s parents, family and my daughter that you are a competent driver and therefore safe to drive at speed.

You are in that child’s parents eyes a murderer waiting to kill.

Cabbie21

I can't drive and feel I'm too old to try and pass the test now. If I had persevered and got a licence, things might be different.

I am not always a nervous passenger but sometimes I am very nervous when my husband is driving. He is technically a good driver with fast reactions and good parking skills. He tends to observe the speed limits on local roads but on motorways often exceeds the limit by 10 or even 20 mph. I find it especially frightening at night when the weather is bad. If I ask him, nicely, if he could slow down or not get so close to the car in front because he is scaring me, he gets very angry. He interprets it as me "getting at" him, rather than me telling him I'm frightened.

I don't know what the answer is but from someof the posts on here I see that it is not that uncommon.

My husband drove over 10,000 miles a year when he was working and never had an accident as he observed the speed limit. His mantra was ‘any fool can drive over the speed limit, but not everyone can drive safely’. This was not a ‘holier than thou’ attitude, just a consideration for all other road users.
Sadly, now, he has Vascular Dementia and has surrendered his license, so now it’s down to me. I know I’m not as good a driver as him (my reverse parking is rubbish!), but I always observe the speed limit. I have 2 adult children and two grandchildren, I wouldn’t want to risk their lives and I certainly don’t want others to! In my eyes it’s just a very poor driving technique .

You can be quiet and die when he kills you both by his late reactions or you can speak up . Worse - how will you feel if he kills someone else ?

Oh dear, he gets upset if you say anything.
Oh dear, refusing to be driven by him would be inconvenient.

Stop moaning and pretend everything's fine, then.

Sign up for an IAM or ROSPA advanced test yourself then you will have a better appreciation and knowledge of better driving and can prove you're the superior driver! I'm currently working on my IAM advanced motorcycle test, and that has improved my car driving get no end. Worth every penny and time on the road under instructions and practicing. (Also a good excuse for for me to get out on my bike, the other passionate love of my life besides my Other Half!

You may think you're a safe driver but you never know what hazards you may find out there on the roads.

'He is a good driver who has never had an accident'. I was always reminded that many people only have the one.

It's frightening to think how many of them are out there on the roads, with a lethal weapon in their hands.

I think you and I Cabbie are married to the same man.

It's not the fast lane, it's the *overtaking lane.

Surely a good driver would want his/her passengers to feel comfortable & have confidence in their driver, as well as having the skills to deliver a smooth ride. Much more satisfying than a quick speed thrill!

Point out that, as a pp said, he might be (in his head) a good driver - but everyone else is not. My last car was written off 2years ago, when a van drove straight out in front of me as I came round a roundabout (well within the speed limit.!) forcing me to brake hard to avoid hitting him - sadly, the person behind me wasn't quite as quick on the brakes...! It wrote off both cars - while the van sailed off happily into the distance, the driver no doubt telling himself what a great driver he was

OP, he is not an excellent driver if he makes you feel unsafe. Regarding the speeding; it doesn't necessarily take a camera to catch him, he could easily get caught by an unmarked police vehicle. A conviction would make the insurance a lot more expensive.

Sounds like many men drivers! I was always taught that a good driver makes his passengers feel safe and confident. This remark doesn’t down well at all with my husband when he goes right up behind the car in front etc etc !!

My parents had the precise same problem as far back as I can remember and my mother never had the guts to stay out of Daddy's car. She complained about his driving and he got furious with her, so I know all about it.

As far as I can see, you have two options: either do as my mother did, which I would not recommend, or refuse to go anywhere in your husband's car unless he lets you drive!