Points of view - what do you GN’s think about it?

Smileless2012 that seems good advice but OldMeg you made me giggle! ?

my best friends husband had an affair right up until she died ...aged just 45 .He moved his" lady "friend into what was his wifes home after 6 weeks .Honestly ANY one who can behave like that doesn't deserve to be treated well.Most marriages will have rough patches ...most will get over them if there isn't some one who thinks its her right to sleep with someone elses husband.I certainly agree with your OH ,just keep her at a distance ,she's not someone I'd want in my social circle .Predators rarely stop at one ..whose husband will she chase next ?

Well unless you want to tell her what the real reason is , I guess you would be better off having a ‘prior engagement’‘Not perhaps the best way to deal with the situation but perhaps the easiest.

Exactly what Janeainsworth says.

You don't know all the circumstances, things are never black and white and I think it's best not to judge. If you don't want to see them socially, then don't

I’m with your DH. Continue to see your friend, but keep her and your DH apart in case she moves in on him.

After all, she has ‘form’ as you said,

Enjoy this couple's company. It is their business how they conduct their relationships. We are each responsible for our own behaviour.

I agree with janeainsworth it does seem unfair to judge this man's actions when you don't know him.

If a get together is suggested all you can be is honest and say your husband isn't comfortable with the way she and her new man met. If it were me, I'd try and persuade him to at least meet and give this lady and her man a chance before you're put in a position to decline for him.

I wouldn’t judge them as their actions are their business and although it may seem what they have done is very wrong, who knows the reasons behind it. If it was me I would continue to enjoy the friendship you had with her and not worry about her private life.

I'm with janeainsworth on this one. None of us really knows the inns and outs and we shouldn't judge. There but for the Grace of God etc etc.

I try not to judge other people’s relationships or apportion blame urmstongran and don’t take sides when people separate or divorce.
You and your DH have no way of knowing what went on in your friend’s new man’s previous marriage or how he came to be in a relationship with your friend.
I would try to be friendly and welcoming until you know him better.
If he does indeed turn out to be a cad and a rotter you don’t have to carry on the friendship.
If your DH won’t go to the social gatherings with the partners, just because if the new man, that strikes me as rather uncharitable.