Younger friends

Hi kitty, right now it's a one-off invitation and a chance to have a proper catch up. You go for it and just enjoy getting out and having a natter.
Like others I have friends of all ages and in some friendships I'm the young un and in others I'm a mother/grandmother figure. Yesterday my foster son's young wife called me for an hour long chat because she's feeling a bit low after losing a baby and wanted my perspective on a range of things. She actually called me a 'wise woman'! Even though she left out the 'old' in the middle of that phrase we both knew it was there, I felt about a hundred years old, but happy to have been helpful.

Kitty
Go and meet her, I bet you have a great tme and do a lot of laughing!
She suggested meeting, and she wouldn't have done that if she didn't want to see you!
GabriellaG
Maybe it's just your 'way' but you often come across as rude and seemingly 'superior' to others here. Not a particularly nice attitude!

Old workmates are always good to catch up with.

Gabrielle - does the 'mad' refer to me? It must be lovely in your world if you never have a crisis of confidence!

Thank you everyone for replying.

I know I will enjoy myself but, will she? I'd hate her to be thinking she was doing me a favour.

I am aware that friendships with large age differences work. One of my friends is much nearer my mum's age than mine but, as far as I am aware, none of my daughters have friends who are 40 years older!

Not at all. She was the one to suggest it. I have worked with all different age groups and its the person that appeals to me not their age.

Well, tbh, we have no idea what she thinks or her motive for meeting and nor do you unless you ask.
How can you ask anyone to decide what you should do or what WE think SHE thinks? Mad...

I have friends from both my previous jobs, they are half my age yet still email, text and ask me out to dinner, ask my advice etc it’s lovely .... enjoy !

Also I have a friend who was in her late 80s, she's great!

I don,t think age comes into friendship at all. It's the interests you share and maybe sense of humour that often bond friends. One of my dearest friends was 28 years older than me and age never came into it. We had so much in common that we never even thought about it apart from one occasion when we were out together having coffee ..the waitress brought them over saying "here,s yours and here,s your mum's. We both burst out laughing. Sadly she has since died in her 90s a really happy..fun lady who was special and sadly missed.

I always loved "old" people ,as a oung girl I regularly visited an old neighbour ...much older than my mum and loved talking to her.When I was a newly wed I'd go to the pub with a neighbour in her 70's ,her stories of her life were fascinating and she was great company.Now I'm the older person with the younger friends and some of my D's friends pop in to visit when the're passing and msg me on FB .Age is just a number .Have a great time with our friend.I should say my OH is much more at home with people 20 years or more younger than him and has a lot of men friends that are ages with our children .

If she didn't want to meet up she wouldn't have suggested it, my friend at work is 35, I am 62 we get on great and have a laugh, she's taken me in her car shopping a couple of times, she's the same age as 1 of my daughters, it's good to have friends of different ages,

Another one who agrees the age difference isn't an issue - unless you make it one. My friend worked with a lot of much younger people in a well known store and years later they are still great friends and regularly go out together. Just go and enjoy yourself

For heavens sake. If she didn’t want to see you, surely she wouldn’t have agreed to meet you, would she..?

I think you are possibly worrying about nothing.

Go out with your friend and enjoy a nice time. As others say, age is just a number, you have many things in common. Relax and look forward to a lovely time. Let us know how you got on. I’m betting that you will say you had a great time and have organised another meetup! ?

One of my dearest friends was at least 20 years older than me - go for it. What do you have to lose?

Go along and enjoy yourself. Be confident and relaxed and have fun.

I’m 68 and go out to the pub, meals etc with my friend. She is 25. Her husband is 60 this year so she is comfortable with my age group. Age is just a number (cliched I know), but it’s common interests that make friendships.

I don't think you have to worry about the age gap. Two of my closest and dearest friends were 41-42 years older than me. Sadly, they both passed away over two and three years ago, and I miss them so much.

I’m 60 in June and have just returned from Dublin to celebrate a friend’s 90th birthday. We’ve been friends for over 15 years and I love spending time with her. Go and enjoy yourself!

You are friends because you have some history in common, enjoy chatting and obviously like each other's company. I used to be friends with an elderly woman at work. It was a different kind of friendship than younger people. It's only a coffee.
Also, young people can be lonely and she may need a bit of company just as much as older people sometimes do. It is just a coffee. Don't overthink it.

I really enjoy the company of some of the people I meet at a U3A group. They are about 20 years older than me but we have great chats and I always look forward to our sessions.
Another U3A group is much younger but I don't enjoy their company nearly as much. It's personality not age that contributes to good friendships.

I can understand your reluctance Kittylester but it sounds completely unfounded to me.If its any consolation to you most of my friends are at least 20 to 30 years my junior these days and do you know we get on better and have more of a mixed conversation..........and laughs .....than I ever have with folk nearer my own age.......nearing the big 80.
Friendships over a length of time sadly deplete as one reaches 70/80 and though I still have two,one of which is in her mid nineties, remember there was a time when she was far older than myself and yet we hit it off from the start.
Friendships or acquaintships is not about age gaps,but sharing something in common,and then enjoying that together.
Life is far too short to start worrying by such trivialities.................just go for it and enjoy!!!

When I was in my 30s, I had an elderly neighbour who was in her 70s. She was housebound, so I visited her regularly, took her for drives, because her only daughter could not drive. She and I shared a lovely friendship...told each other almost everything....she gave me history lessons. I gained much from her .

Did you get on well during that time working together I wonder? If so, it will be great to meet up, you'll have something to natter about. I think it's great to have friends of all ages. Just met a younger woman who is new to our church. She lives nearby and is expecting their first baby. I invited her round for coffee yesterday. We had a lovely time and have quite a bit in common. Enjoy!

Don't over think it Kitty friends come in all shapes and sizes. It may not be a best friends forever relationship but its good to have different people in your life.
Enjoy your time with her.