DIL's that are a blessing?

Thank you everyone! It has greatly cheered my heart to read all of these reports on good and healthy relationships with our "extra" kids.

@Granny3Rose , I am so sorry to read of the loss of your son. ((Hugs))

I have the loveliest DiL, sadly not still with DS, who sent me a wonderful Mothers Day card from her and DGD this year, I have no idea what I did with it!

None of my children have partners, neither do I. ..seems to run in the family ?
We are all very close to each other, on good terms with ex partners and adore 2 fabulous grandchildren.

3 dear SIL's different as chalk and cheese but make our dear D's happy - therefore us ! QED

I have a wonderful DDiL and DSiL, I feel very blessed. I was a much loved DDiL and loved my DPiLs more than my own DPs. At times of stress I think of my now deceased DiLs and derive much comfort.

I have a lovely DIL. She is 9 years older than my son and only 14 years younger than me so maybe that's why we get on so well. They only married in March but have been together a few years and have my nearly 3 year old DGD together. My DIL also has grown up twins aged 19 and a 17 year old and did a fantastic job in bringing them up on her own and training to be a nurse during that time.
At the wedding unknown to my son or anyone, she organised an Elvis impersonator as my late husband (who died 19 months ago) was a big Elvis fan. It was very emotional. She is just thoughtful and will help in whatever way she can. I'm lucky that they live on the same street. I've also got my daughter, future SIL and DGS living with me. He's also great and we get on well.

How lovely to be able to compliment our DiLs. Often the posts are about awful DiLs and I wouldn't, then, want to start saying how wonderful mine is. DH and I were so lucky with our MiLs whom we both loved dearly. Where I feel especially lucky is that my DDiL often includes me in things with her mum. I have just come back from her house where she had her friends and mum round to watch the royal wedding and asked me to come too. I never expect it but am so grateful to her.

I feel so lucky to have a lovely DIL and a lovely 'might have been' DIL except that her partner, my son, died. They live at opposite sides of the country and I live halfway between. I organise an annual get-together weekend to be sure that we all see each other at the same time at least once in the year. We all enjoy each other's company and watching the children playing with their cousins.

I have a lovely DIL who seems to know just how to deal with me and two very different delightful SILs, I know I am very lucky.

I hope DS1 and DS3 marry their lovely, longstanding girlfriends, so I can be a bonafide MiL & wax lyrical about them on threads such as these!

We have a lovely DIL too, and she even gets on really well with my DH (and that is not always easy, the dear man has his faults, and so do I.)

She is an independent young woman who runs her own business, but the only thing that really matters is that she loves our son and he loves her!

I love my Sil and Dil; having had a dreadful and negative non relationship with my own spiteful Mil I made my mind up years ago that whoever my children chose I would love them no matter what. And they are both easy to love.

We have a very good relationship with our SIL. He fits into our family very well and has got used to the fact that my daughter talks to me about anything and everything. I was the one he was messaging in a panic when he was preparing to propose (in public). Along the lines of 'she will say yes won't she'. 'Yes she will say yes. This went on for a couple of days and of course she said yes. They married last year and are now expecting a baby and I get the occassioal message when he has a panicky moment lol. My daughter says she knew he would fit in when the first time he met her dad they were sitting by the computer together my DH starting pieces of music and my SIL guessing them from the intro. Her words at the time were 'Oh god, I'm dating a replica of my father lol.

I have a lively SIL who bravely took on my D. Four GC and 17 years later and they are still very happy together.
My one 'gripe' is that he has only once called me 'mum', as a joke, and never ever uses my name! (How petty is that? )

I have a beautiful DIL who is the mother of my only GC. She is everything I could wish for in a DIL and the whole family love her.

I am so lucky to have my lovely DiL! The best there could be! We have always got on & I hope we always will. She has given me 2 wonderful GC & the best thing is that we agree we get on because we both love my DS. Our family is certainly better for her being part of us & I love her to bits!

Like you, I have been blessed with 2 absolutely amazing DIL’s and I love them both dearly. They adore my sons, they are wonderful Mums, and are both so thoughtful and considerate to me. I am included in everything and consider them friends and family all rolled into one. My SIL is lovely too .........but he will insist on trying to fix me up with his mates !!

I love my son's would-be wife. She is beautiful inside and out and we get on really well. She has also done the one thing that I longed for for years - bought him back to live near me after he went hundreds of miles away to uni and decided to stay there . They re-met on one of his trips home, fell in love and the rest, as they say, is history. Now if she can only give me my first grandchild ................

Both my DIL's are wonderful girls - the eldest I've known since she was 16 - 31 years ago now! She's a brilliant mother to my 2 granddaughters as well as being their best friend and is very supportive of my son who has a stressful job.

Strangely I've just remembered, watching all the pre Royal Wedding preparations, we met our future youngest DIL in Windsor and instantly knew she was the right girl for our son. She's very confident, outgoing and fiercely independent. She has given us two little grandsons and is also a great mother.

Both are as different as chalk and cheese but we feel very lucky to have them looking after our sons albeit one on the other side of the world now so we don't have much of a relationship with her any more.

I built a relationship with my MiL slowly over the years. We lived 120 miles apart and I definitely wasn’t what she was expecting. At the end of her life I was the one sat on her bed holding her hand.
I barely have a relationship with my own DiL. She has a very busy career and is devoted to my son and her family. She Is great in a crisis (and we have had a few) but otherwise we hardly ever see her even though we see the GC every week. Unfortunately my son follows her lead. The main thing is that they are happy but I do wish we could have been closer.

I would add, like Chewbacca, both sides of the family get on well. In fact DDiL's family and ours have melded into one. As both family's are small and DS & DDiL's children are the only DGC either side will ever have we are united around them.

Three of my grandparents have passed away. Hubby has a similar situation. His nan was only 18 when his mum was born and his mum was only 18 when he was born. His other nan is still alive but we don't have contact with her as she has treated us poorly.

You must be relatively young then agnurse to have all these older generations still around.

I have a good relationship with my MIL. We don't talk much but she appreciates my nursing expertise and sometimes will ask my advice or interpretation. (I don't offer unsolicited advice. GMIL has had serious health issues for many years and MIL will sometimes ask me questions as she's curious and loves to learn about medicine. I love to teach so it works well.) My parents are also happy with my husband and my SIL.

Mom shared with me some of her experiences with her father and my dad's parents. She said her dad said something once that really surprised her, knowing how he was. (I don't mean this to be insensitive, but Grandpa was from Holland and he was very Dutch, if that makes sense. He was my grandfather and a good one too. My husband is also of Dutch descent.) Grandpa said that his kids had to respect every partner their siblings brought home, and that as a parent it was important to respect every partner your child brought home. One day that person could become their spouse and any children they had together would be their grandchildren. Showing respect for the spouse would go a long way to ensuring a positive relationship with the grandchildren.

After my dad's mother passed away, Mom wrote of the first time they met. Dad had invited her to the farm where he had grown up. Mom drove out there and was greeted by the dog who, in her words, "looked as if he ate girlfriends for breakfast". (She made friends with him first and he was quite sociable and well behaved.) Then she went to the door. Grandma invited her in and said the men were just out working and would be back soon. Mom was a little nervous because she knew she would never have left Dad alone with her dad at first (see above). Grandma offered her some homemade cinnamon buns and homemade raspberry jam. By the time the men showed up Mom knew they would be friends. Mom got on very well with my grandparents until their deaths years later.