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My foreign girlfriend wants us to settle down in her country.

(19 Posts)
OldMeg Thu 24-May-18 08:42:22

Exactly!

Elegran Thu 24-May-18 08:39:23

A lot of them are finished here, and there are always those who don't use their "study leave" for revision.

OldMeg Thu 24-May-18 08:30:54

Exam leave.

OldMeg Thu 24-May-18 08:30:36

Exams only just starting here GCSEs and A levels.

Elegran Thu 24-May-18 08:05:06

Exams are over, time to make pests of themselves.

Oldwoman70 Thu 24-May-18 08:01:36

I don't think this is a genuine post - there seem to be a few of them lately

Besstwishes Thu 24-May-18 07:42:40

It’s getting easier old meg but I’m not quite there yet! It still takes me a while to suss it out

OldMeg Thu 24-May-18 07:33:40

Always the same at this time of year. Easy to spot isn’t it?

BlueBelle Thu 24-May-18 07:19:18

I agree bestwishes so no slap down from me I suspect a little wind up here along with another ‘ Male poster’ on another thread

Besstwishes Thu 24-May-18 07:06:59

I detect a few inconsistencies here, long term girlfriend but is thinking of settling down? I think long term means they have settled down.
Has always insisted that we live in her country? Then why is she still here?
Reconsidering having a foreign bride! Really? Foreign? if you love a person you surely stop considering them as foreign.
You want to stay where you are at...........
I expect I will be slapped on the wrist for this, but as the OP hasn’t come back, I suspect that someone is just bored and has made up this scenario.

BlueBelle Thu 24-May-18 05:54:02

Doesn’t sound as if there’s any love involved If either of you loved the other, you’d live anywhere sooner than be apart

Why date a girl friend from thousands of miles away if you know you want to stay put in your own area what a selfish bloke no thoughts that the other person may not want to stay in your neck of the wood Find a girlfriend from your village/town and you ll have no problems (unless she has a travel gene) ?

Besstwishes Wed 23-May-18 18:43:40

If you can’t be persuaded, what makes you think your girlfriend will be?

It’s such a huge difference of opinion that I don’t think you will sort it out so that you are both happy and will remain happy.

It might be time to call it a day.

Belgravian Wed 23-May-18 14:49:58

The ultimate question for me personally if I'd considered settling down with someone from another country was that if we had children and split up would there be a danger of them being taken to live in another country?

I'm female.

M0nica Wed 23-May-18 13:17:46

Some marriages are not to be, no matter how much in love the couple are. I think this is one of them.

Why should you go hunting for methods to persuade her to stay in your country when you have completely ruled out going to hers?

Davidhs Wed 23-May-18 12:53:02

The reverse is much more usual, Asian girls want to move to the west, I am guessing she is from a comfortable middle class family which means a lot to her.
Loneliness and homesickness is very common with foreign brides and it is not easy for many to adjust to western culture. Even if she could be persuaded to live in the UK the regulations are very strict on any migrants, even from Australia and NZ.
Wishing her well and finding another girlfriend seems to be the most realistic option

Welshwife Wed 23-May-18 12:42:10

Apart from anything else it depends to which country. Thailand for instance has strict rules about foreigners working or owning property - basically they can only own 49% - the 51% must be owned by a Thai. They can only work doing a job a Thai person cannot do - ie teach English or similar. Other countries could have similar rules.
You may also find that your partner needs visas which require renewing at a high cost if you remain in Britain.

Elegran Wed 23-May-18 12:16:58

To change her mind, you would have to become more important to her than the place she was born in, just as she would have to beome more important to you~ than the place ^you were born in for you to agree to move to her country. Sounds to me as though neither of you are ready for that level of committment.

janeainsworth Wed 23-May-18 11:45:48

It doesn’t really sound as though your ‘relationship’ is going anywhere, does it zachary?

zachary1982 Wed 23-May-18 11:37:07

My long-term girlfriend is from Southeast Asia and whenever we talk about settling down, she always insists that we should live in her country. I certainly do not like that. I wish to live and raise my own family in the place where I was born in. Now I’m reconsidering the idea of having a foreign bride. How can I convince my gf to stay where I am at?