Separated

It's the start of your new life; scary but very liberating. Best thing I ever did. Good luck and enjoy!

The first few weeks are the hardest - I remember sitting in my new digs, staring at the table top, and feeling so empty. But it doesn't last - you're just on " the first day of the rest of your life" - so take it one day at a time. Soon you'll get into a new routine and the emptiness will disappear. Good luck !

Good advice on here StarTurtle don't rush into anything, give yourself time to process things and make the situation work for you.
mcem has it right but it will take time.
Good luck.

Thanks everyone. I sort of wanted it. It’s hard now I’ve got it. Been together 16 years. Nothing amazing happened. We just both changed.

Have faith in yourself.
Embrace and look forward to an independent future.
Excellent ideas here - do things that might have been frowned on or criticised and enjoy doing them.
Buy your favourite foods - cook and eat how and when you choose.
If you find pleasure in these small gestures you'll find yourself reaching out and becoming just a bit more ambitious.
Don't expect too much too soon. Occasional setbacks or dents to your confidence are inevitable. Push on and look on your future as being not alone but independent. It's a terrific feeling!

Forgot to say the GNs are always here for you.

So sorry to hear that Starturtle. Its hard to be alone with your thoughts at times like this. My OH and I separated for a while a few years ago and I thought I would never be able to cope with being alone. But I was able to find my own way. Wheneventaully we got back together I felt stronger. I obviously dont know the reasons,whether you wanted this or how long you have been together, but you ARE able to do this. Just take your time to think about what you want. Dont rush things just enjoy being you.

Think of something that you would not be able to do if you were still together. Any little thing like watch a particular TV programme or just have cheese on toast for tea, or leave your hobby materials spread out on the table. So much depends on your income but if you have transport plan a trip tomorrow that you will enjoy but he would not have done.

Is it what you wanted ..if so just give yourself some breathing space and allow yourself to just sit and think things over and make plans , don't rush into anything yet.
Good luck

It's early days. It'll take a while to sink in. Best way of dealing with it is to look on it as new beginnings, the start of a new life - who knows what adventures await? I'd buy a campervan and plan to go on exciting trips! Obvs depends on what you're interested in and how old you are! But take it easy, no hurry!