Gransnet forums

Relationships

Men and women

(136 Posts)
Jette Fri 27-Jul-18 16:22:43

How would you take it if a man you were with gently caressed your face?

luzdoh Sat 28-Jul-18 09:46:18

It's an "It depends...." answer.

If the man were the one and only love of my life that would be beautiful.

I can't think of any other circumstances where I wouldn't be other than spooked by it!

Oh - my blind friend, of course! As he has moved to another country I nearly forgot. Naturally, I let him touch my face . But he only asked once just to get an idea of what I was like.

A Dentist stroked my earlobe while waiting for the numbing injection to take effect, years ago. I changed Dentists.

grumppa Sat 28-Jul-18 09:48:26

I cannot imagine ever "gently caressing" the cheek of a woman with whom I had not already established, or was not in the process of establishing, a mutually acceptable of intimacy - unless of course an insect had settled on her cheek and I did not have a clean handkerchief or tissue handy.....

On the evidence presented the fellow's a bounder, and possibly an accountant to boot.

sylviann Sat 28-Jul-18 09:51:49

I'd take it in the spirit it was meant in

stella1949 Sat 28-Jul-18 09:56:07

My husband or (maybe) my little grandson - yes, very nice. Anyone else - no. You say it was a professional meeting - I'd say definitely NO.

Carolpaint Sat 28-Jul-18 09:58:20

Stroke his face, find out where it leads. There is no reparation in eternity for repeling love. Could be beautiful, shocking, bizarre, a hoot, whatever?

nigglynellie Sat 28-Jul-18 09:58:51

Yuk!!!!!

Chewbacca Sat 28-Jul-18 09:59:13

On the evidence presented the fellow's a bounder, and possibly an accountant to boot.
Grumpa grin

KayC Sat 28-Jul-18 10:00:24

If it felt in any way aggressive and/or sexual wrong. If it felt caring and/or sympathetic then okay even if unusual and a sign that you touched his heart.

Maggiemaybe Sat 28-Jul-18 10:01:51

We need more context to be able to comment in any useful way.

But I agree with Wot. Let's give her a chance.

narrowboatnan Sat 28-Jul-18 10:08:11

If the chap was from a different culture then maybe he was black and had never touched a white person’s skin before (this is assuming that Jette is white) and wanted to know what her face felt like?

Ellie Anne Sat 28-Jul-18 10:11:27

Wouldn’t like it at all.

BlueBelle Sat 28-Jul-18 10:27:48

Oh for Goodness sake narrowboatman you re in a different century we live in a racially diverse country we are not living in a country or century where no one has seen a white wonan before..... pleeeeze
A black professional guy would in my opinion never do that they have to be one step behind what anyone else might do as they can be accused so easily
It all sounds very strange and as Jette has never seen him since it’s all really totally irrelevant whether it was sexual, hopefull or just dusting an small fly off her face

sandelf Sat 28-Jul-18 10:28:47

My reaction - Oh God no! What on earth are you doing? Don't ever think of attempting that again.

GabriellaG Sat 28-Jul-18 10:29:32

Soft, describes a touch, not something you see.
Was 'the man from a different culture', different to Brits, or are you Jette? There are many women of many cultures whose skin is soft.
IMO, depending on your and his ages, he was either trying for a pass or has no manners. There are some cultures where touching a woman you don't know in that manner would be really frowned on. That said, there are always men who step outside their cultural boundaries.
Ages?

Chewbacca Sat 28-Jul-18 10:33:49

OP hasn't been back so we're non the wiser are we?

Greciangirl Sat 28-Jul-18 10:37:18

I think I would be flattered if I liked him.

Jalima1108 Sat 28-Jul-18 10:41:06

It depends on the definition of the word with in this context.

grandtanteJE65 Sat 28-Jul-18 10:51:58

I would have asked any man who I am not on intimate terms with, which means every man except my DH, to keep his hands to himself.

In a professional situation, I would also have pointed out to this person that he was perilously close to overstepping the bounds of professional propriety and that any re-occurrence would lead to my complaining to the relevant authority who employs him.

ajanela Sat 28-Jul-18 10:52:00

Yes I wondered if he was from a different culture. Some cultures are very much more touchy, freely and yes I expect he wanted to feel your skin especially if you are white and blonde,

Rocknroll5me Sat 28-Jul-18 10:55:35

I would find it entirely inappropriate. Strangers don't get to touch your face. Unless a dentist or doctor and they are in role.

paddyann Sat 28-Jul-18 11:00:15

I wouldn't get close enough for anyone to do this to me.I like to keep my space.We have a friend who talks to you from inches away...I always move back from him as I really feel uncomfortable being that close to people

lizzypopbottle Sat 28-Jul-18 11:03:35

Touching someone's face is a proprietorial gesture. I dislike it.

MissAdventure Sat 28-Jul-18 11:10:51

I don't really allow anyone to touch me anywhere without permission.
If I sense some kind of hug is about to happen, I make myself scarce.

GrannyGravy13 Sat 28-Jul-18 11:21:02

Run!!!

amber22 Sat 28-Jul-18 11:21:28

it's a really humiliating thing to do, the only possibly acceptable context would be doing it to a small child who'd been naughty, probably during or after telling him/her how annoying the naughty behavior had been.