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I think I have offended her

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eebeew Tue 02-Oct-18 09:33:02

Recently I joined a small local group of women. After the first meeting a few of us went across the road and had lunch together which I very much enjoyed. I’m trying to make friends as I have recently moved to a new town so this was very welcome.
But today while at the supermarket one of the women cut me dead. I know she recognised me as she said hello but moved on fast. I am very upset as I do not know why or what I can have said that has offended her. I don’t know her surname or where she lives so I can’t go and ask her. I think I know where she volunteers but it seems wrong to confront her there. The next group meeting is not for 4 weeks. I just can’t stop ruminating about it and trying to work out what to do.
Any ideas?

Elrel Thu 04-Oct-18 00:26:55

Someone had offered to help me with organising an event and let me down. I decided I'd avoid her in future. Rushing into a crowded hall I was warmly greeted by a smiling woman and responded similarly. Then I moved on and suddenly realised that the unreliable 'helper' had changed her hair colour ...
I guess we'll be ok in future but I'll never accept or expect any help from her!

Nannarose Thu 04-Oct-18 07:32:59

" I belong to a group of women who meet for lunch. At our last meeting I sat next to a lovely newcomer and we had a nice chat. Yesterday I was doing my supermarket shopping, partly on auto-pilot, partly anxious I had left enough time to get to my dental appointment. I said 'hello' to someone I recognised, but hadn't clue who she was. It was while I was in the dentist's chair that I suddenly remembered it was the new lady! I hope I haven't offended her!"

I reckon it's worth giving her a free pass on this occasion.

Magrithea Fri 05-Oct-18 09:53:35

If she said hello she didn't cut you dead! Stop worrying, as another poster said she probably couldn't place you and didn't want to feel awkward if stopping to chat! Not everyone wants a chat in supermarket aisles. Go to your next get together and get to know the group more, it will help you all

Yellowmellow Fri 05-Oct-18 10:53:40

Some people are just plain rude. I have a neighbour who nearly breaks her neck to say 'hello', or wave if she sees me one day, and another day she will walk past as if she hasn't seen you, and actually puts her head down. I'm not the only one who she does it too, so no offence taken. Weird people or what x Don't stress yourself on people like this, just be pleasant and concentrate on the people who are worth your time and care about you back. xx