My husband is lying to me

Yes although the next one is this weekend. Says he’s cancelled everything but as I said - that’s not possible. I don’t suspect an affair due to medical problems and we’re together most evenings & every weekend- I go out more than he does. Just feel hurt over what he expects me to believe and why.

Just so that I understand. Did he go out the last time saying he was going to football but you suspect he didn't? And this time he said he was going to football then stayed home?

He usually gets tickets well in advance and leaves them around. None last time or this time. If he just wanted a day to himself I could cope but it’s being taken for an idiot I object to!

I am with Lindill, we wouldn't dream of leaving the house without saying where we were going and when we will be back. It was the same when the children were at home. I notice DS and family do exactly the same thing. It is bad manners not to.

Apart from anything else, if anything happens to a family member, you know when to start worrying, finding out where they are and are able to let police know where they were going and what they intended to do.

I would leave it this time, and only insist on knowing if it happens again.
Maybe he just didn’t want to go, or didn’t feel up to it.

I'm divorced........nip it in the bud Lindi. Don't be like me.... told me he was working late, I trusted him. Used to go out late at night, following a phone call... used to tell me it was a patient ....believed him. Went away for weekends, said he was at a conference........until......
I was turning out his pockets and found a receipt for a Hotel...room for two, the same weekend he was at a "conference"
So do check up on him....if it's a fling, he'll soon think it's not worth it, but if it's a serious affair, he will leave. Better that, than living a lie.
All the best !!

No - he told me he was going to a football match and then said he wasn’t going and had cancelled the tickets and train - which you can’t do. And I wouldn’t dream of going out of the house without saying where I was going - common courtesy surely?

Is it usual for him to tell you where he has been ? It's obviously a cause for concern for you so you need to clear the air, not sure how this will go given your previous experiences.
I agree with paddyann to an extent but its different for you and your husband Lindill

Could be be arranging a surprise for you - birthday, anniversary of Christmas perhaps?

maybe he thinks he should be able to go out without being questioned ? I know I would hate someone asking about everything I do.My OH goes missing for hours sometimes ,he's an adult ,its allowed .Let him live his life why do you need to know his every move?

2nd marriage - 20 years. Other lies over the years and have confronted them but this seems senseless and he’s expecting me to believe rubbish.

How long have you been together? I ask this because, if you've been together for many years and he's only recently started to lie, this is odd behaviour. Is there a medical problem?

If it's a new relationship, I'd perhaps think carefully about the future.

I suppose we all tell a white or superficial lie now and again.

Why not gently raise it and see what response you get? I suppose also it depends how often it happens.

Good luck!