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glammanana Fri 26-Oct-18 11:47:09

Apricity has hit the nail on the head imo,he is lining up his next housekeeper keep away from this leech would be my advice.

Izabella Fri 26-Oct-18 11:42:24

I think Apricity sums up my feelings on this quite nicely. Creep on the run indeed.

Apricity Fri 26-Oct-18 11:33:20

Maggie, I'll drink (in moderation of course) to that thought. ??

crazyH Fri 26-Oct-18 11:19:10

Go easy on the wine ?

MaggieTulliver Fri 26-Oct-18 11:15:40

Oh wise ladies, thank you so much...

I may well never be attracted to him anyway so why am I putting myself through this? A bit of straight talking methinks and easy on the wine for me because I'm an idiot when I've had too much. 61 going on 16....

Apricity Fri 26-Oct-18 11:10:03

He's still living "platonically" (really!!!pull the other leg it's got bells on it!!) with his allegedly "soon to be ex-wife", you just met in the park with the dogs, you're not particularly attracted to him, he's not pushing you but keeps lunging at you and trying to kiss you which you don't like! Maggie what were/are you thinking? There's a world of difference between a pleasant friendship in the park and a creep on the make. Run for the hills or at least find another park to walk the dogs.

Happiyogi Fri 26-Oct-18 11:06:35

Speak up. Tell him the gist of what you've told us, and his response will be revealing. Then you can make your choice.

I think clarification is (almost) always the wisest, fairest, best option!

Sparklefizz Fri 26-Oct-18 11:02:15

Listen to your gut feelings.

Sparklefizz Fri 26-Oct-18 11:02:01

I have been in a similar situation. I would speak to him exactly as you suggest. The "lunging" is only going to put you off and you may never find him attractive romantically unless he takes things slowly.

MaggieTulliver Fri 26-Oct-18 10:51:16

I'm 61 and have been single for nearly 10 years post-divorce. I haven't been looking for a relationship but have recently met a nice man (in the park whilst out dog walking!) and we have struck up a friendship but he's obviously interested in more. He's going through a divorce and is still living with his soon to be ex-wife (apparently platonically...).

He's not pushing me particularly but keeps trying to kiss me which I don't like. I have to admit that I had too much to drink on one occasion and allowed him to, so maybe I'm sending mixed messages. I'm not sure how I feel about him romantically in any case (there isn't a huge spark of attraction for me yet) but I do very much like his company and would like to continue the friendship and see what happens. It's quite possible that I'm simply not attracted to him but obviously the situation with his wife means I wouldn't want to get involved yet anyway. Am thinking I should clarify things with him and say that I enjoy his company but that I'm only interested in friendship at this stage so he stops lunging at me! What would you do?