Shopping with DH is a nightmare!!

Mine too..I would rather not go shopping. I do mostly online now

Love that story Witzend

My husband is a Scrooge and sulks over shopping: when we have guests they would starve if he was allowed to shop for them. He's 80: how does he want people to remember him?

I very rarely shop with dh. Whenever I do, he has the habit of disappearing elsewhere in the shop.

On one occasion, years ago, shortly before Halloween, we went to Homebase to find a besom type broom for sweeping leaves off the lawn.

Dh did his usual disappearing act for ages, and I was left by the checkout, clutching my besom broom and fuming, evidently with a face to match, since I then noticed a little boy of 4 or 5, half hiding anxiously behind his mother, and asking in an audible whisper, 'Mummy, is she a witch?'

At least it gave all the family a good laugh - and plenty of others, since dds gleefully related it to all and sundry!

Sometimes DH does the big weekly shop on his own. He buys only what is on the list. When we shop together he adds all sorts of treats - sweets, savouries, cakes, fancy breads, wine etc. I don't mind as I enjoy them as well, but why doesn't he do it when he shops on his own?

As a DH whose OH has a dictatorial attitude to food shopping I can empathize with the DH's. The occasional treat should be allowed. Of course if DH is obese. type 2 diabetic he may need to be restrained. She has a mental block about frozen versus fresh, fresh is not always best.

When it comes to entertaining she never learns from experience and always over buys, if I protest I'm accused on being a killjoy but it's me that gets left with the surplus and has to scrape round to containers for doggy bags.

My wife takes me clothes shopping and that is a nightmare! I prefer her to get her own clothes and me to get mine without interference.

My DH always pushes the trolley. Even though he has a wonky knee and it makes it worse. He is always an aisle behind me in Tesco's, as he examines everything . I make a list on Thursdays of our main meals for the coming week, and then a shopping list. Friday is shopping day. I stick to the list, DH adds extras. Quite a lot sometimes. When we get home there is a lot of, "What do you want this for?" or "When did you put that in? I'm not complaining, It constantly amuses me. When we have put the shopping away, DH has to have a cup of coffee and a rest as his knee is aching. !!!!Say no more !

Me too. Shopping for clothes underwear pjs shoes etc is a nightmare. I'm only short n suffer from anxiety too so I just Make do with what I have. I visit charity shops coz they're smaller than M n S etc and much cheaper too.

I just wanna be in n out if I'm food shopping with my o.h.

I know what you mean...me too

Until you've been a carer, nobody has any jdea

Don’t understand this if he pays or you pay! Surely if you’re a couple finances are shared equally so it belongs to both of you. Am I in the minority here?

Mine is banned from grocery shopping

I've more or less stopped husband coming food shopping with me, he's like yours, evianers.
I have my list, I zoom through the shop, pay, and am home in less than an hour. If he wants to food shop he goes on his own.
If I need other things he's a good help though, eg household, clothes etc.

GabrielleG, must you find fault always, even with the lifestyle of someone whose trials you obvousi cannot even begin to understand.

Its not opticians every 2 years for everyone. My DH has diabetes and has to have his eyes checked every few months. He also has to go to the GP a lot as he has prostate cancer, has to have B12 injections, regular diabetes check ups etc.

GG I do, do Online Banking but need to go to the Branch to register my POA and split our joint account into 2 accounts, I have not been to GP on my own account for over a year but they have called me in for a prescription review on pain of stopping the repeat prescriptions. My own GP does not work Wednesdays and it is she I am supposed to see for the review!!! I have to attend the optician's every 6 months as I have growing cataracts. I have been to the Council HQ 4 times in the last 2 months handing in or having certified copies of Medical Reports/POA/Birth Certificate etc. in connection with the Blue Badge Application. Visited to inspect the respite care home and the CAB to get help with the Financial Assessment Form which must be completed even though they and we know that we will be self funding. Attended 4 sessions of a 'Caring with Confidence Course' and got into trouble each time for arriving late (Day Care and Course both starting at 10am 5 miles apart with no available parking) The list is endless.

GG I could make cutting comments in reply but will just say "You have no idea"

What fun reading everyone else experiences- some resonate and it seems us girls have got the weekly shop down to a fine art after so many years only then to have Himself coming along ‘to help’!
I’ve always loaded my trolley in a way that makes sense for offloading onto the conveyor belt at the till and then into bags for stacking into the boot i.e. bottles & cartons, tins & boxes, veg & fruit, dairy & bread etc.
He now insists on throwing all in willynilly into trolley, onto conveyor then back into trolley for loading into bags at boot of car.....in the pouring rain.....and wonders why we bought mis shapen bread....!
And the man is an engineer- always logical to the nth degree so why can’t he see it?
Good job I love him.....

Granny23
Gosh! Just how often do you need to go to the doctors, opticians and bank?
Banking can be done online, opticians every 2 years for a sight test and doctors when you're ill. Surely none of those are weekly or even monthly visits.

I do all the grocery shopping here! And the OH asks me to do any online shopping as well! I prefer doing it on my own as it's quicker and cheaper! OH does all the clothes shopping though!

Had a good giggle at everyones posts , we are all the same it seems and it has made my day.My Husband is like many others I see, when we go into ASDA when in the UK he heads off to the mens department with the trolley, and when I have gathered goods and cant carry them in my arms anymore,I then have to get my mobile out and ask where he is, he does this every time, I must learn to take my own trolley or basket, as others have taught me today.Thank you for a great thread today.

lefthanded,

It’s the difference between shopping and buying.

Most supermarkets have good man creches ( cafes) so send him there with a newspaper while you do the shopping...’tis what I do!

It's my husband who feels the need to rush to another checkout to avoid waiting longer. I'm happy to be patient.

From a male perspective - the thing I don’t understand is why we do the shopping as though time is no object. We wander aimlessly up and down the same aisles two or three times, we loiter to read labels on products we buy regularly, and generally behave as though we have time to kill. But THEN we head for the checkout - and suddenly time is of the utmost importance. We dash from side-to-side hoping to find the one checkout that will get us through a few pico-seconds faster than the others. Sometimes we even gather up shopping that is already on the conveyor in order to dash to a different one that my wife thinks we be marginally faster.

Why?
I don’t get it.
Really I don’t.