When if at all do you share diaries with a friend?

This time make sure the split is for good!!!

It’s not going to work out give him the heave ho.
You won’t be happy together it’s just not worth it.

Misery in the making. I have now enjoyed 8 and a half years of peace and freedom to do what I want. Run run as fast as you can........

RUN!!!! FAST!!!

Get shot of him asap, before he ruins your life - which he will. Good luck for the future.

Please keep away from him. I was married for seven years to a man who became a monster. It is only many years after he died that i fully realised how much i was controlled. It has taken this amount of time to get my self esteem back. It didn't happen all at once - it is insidious. By the time he died, i didn't listen to Radio 4 in case it disturbed him and had cancelled my own newspaper to keep the peace. Too many more things to mention in a post!

Anyway, i did survive and am enjoying life again. My very best wishes to you.

Wow! You already know the solution. PLEASE, be strong and look out for you.

This is called coercive control. This is how it starts, you really don't want to know how it ends. It is now a criminal offence, when it gets a little bit more serious. Don't let the relationship go there. I suggest saying something like " We are fundamentally different in our outlooks on life, this relationship is never really going to work".

Do not make up. this is potentially a very toxi relationship. See a counsellor to discuss and think over the type of relationships you desire and go for those. Join your local University of the third Age (U3A) find some interesting classes to attend. Talk to one new person each time. Join in the U3A social events - Christmas dinners, going to the theater, visiting museums etc. You will soon find your feet in a set of new relationships and one day you may find someone more special. Good luck.

This is what the Human Givens Therapist's site says

improve relationships — relationship difficulties are often self-perpetuating because our beliefs and reactions to one another trigger patterns of behaviour which stop us solving them. When couples want to stay together but are having problems, human givens therapists can help.

naturally you don't have to be a couple to get help.

LTB - new expression on me but very appropriate.

I have not seen previous posts on this subject from you and I don’t mean to be harsh but can think of no reason why you are still pursuing any sort of relationship with this man. Do you enjoy the drama on some level? Do you need a companion to go out with or are you quite independent? If you continue to go back to him I believe you are ‘enabling ‘ (psycho term ?) his behaviour and he will never learn.
Good luck with it all

This must be horrible for you. Listen to your gut instinct which I hope is telling you to stay away from this awful man. He won't change and your sympathy is ill-founded.
LTB as they say on Mumsnet (leave the bastard) and I'm sure you won't regret it. He will find another victim, sure enough.

This does not sound like a healthy relationship for either of you. It sounds like he needs counselling and professional help. Glad you clarified "Throttled" as to us it means a physical hands round the neck scenario...not good!

Good luck but I would be supportive on the periphery of this one till he gets professional help.

What most people have said. Wave goodbye (nicely but for good).

In my opinion, even after a discussion, people will make their own minds up. As you have done in the past. And will do now.

OOnana has been given this advice previously, from what others have said, but didn't take that advice or learn from her experience with this man. What advice does she want from gransnetters now? Stay with him and continue as a doormat having a miserable life?
Lots of us on here have happy and fulfilled lives without the need of a 'man friend'.
You know from previous and current advice EXACTLY what to do oonana.

However lonely you are, you do not need a man at any price he may wish to exact! Find other friends, male and female, to spend time with. If you still feel lonely, get a dog. Best of luck

Find another as my mum would have said.

I agree with everyone else. I would run.

Get rid.

Run for the hills! This stuff only ever gets worse (speaking from experience)

ooonana this is a no no, as I think you've been advised before. Just don't go there....

I agree with everyone else’s comments. Life is too short to have to put up with behaviour like this from anyone, whether friend or family. Drop him and move on. I would rather be happy on my own than miserable in a relationship. Good luck.

Cut him out of your life now, the more you try and smooth things over, the worse his behaviour will be. Nobody needs a “friend” who acts like that to get his own way.

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