When if at all do you share diaries with a friend?

Nobody needs that level of toxicity in their life. Life is too short to waste, wish him a pleasant life and walk away.

I think you know the answer to this one, get rid of him.

Get rid of him ASAP oonana
He won't change (and what's more - he's just proved it!!!)

Just Say No
and Goodbye

Nope. We share a house and have 2 kids to parent together and although we do compare certain things for logistical purposes (eg who is picking up kids & when we're both free to do things together etc) he doesnt ask what Im doing otherwise in anything other than a conversational way

Do you want contentment in your life? Someone who makes you feel good about yourself without you having to jump hoops to please him. This man is not going to give you that. He just wants to take everything from you and give nothing in return. Your life - your diary- none of his business- let him go.

I can see from historical posts that you have known this man a very long time and have periodically posted the same kind of concerns about his controlling behaviour. I think you have to accept that this is how he is. If you are asking if you can be any more than occasional friends, the answer is no unless you are prepared to submit to him wanting to know (and eventually wanting to control) your every movement.

1 I wouldn’t in the first place
2 I would lose him from my life forthwith.

Same here Izabella! ?
I thought to myself, she's being very casual about the fact that he's been throttling her. ?

Throttled here is neck wringing.

Thank you all for your messages, I will take them all to heart. I really need reassurance from you all that this is never going to be made in heaven.

Hello Buffy throttled in our neck of the woods means being held back and controlled

I really hope that "throttled" is just a turn of phrase which I am not familiar with.

Yes Blue Belle afraid it is and I haven’t learnt have I

Is this the same companion you were writing about last year having various problems and were advised to leave him ?

Well I couldn't be doing with a misery. I'd chase him.

Buy him a onesie and a real dummy?

Here's my idea.
Tell him to eff off.

What everyone above has said!

Run as fast and as far away as you can!

Someone who checks your diary and throws a tantrum if you won't show

Avoid like the plague. You are not committed and only just resumed your friendship and already he is behaving like a spoilt 2 year old.

It sounds as if you have gone through this before with someone else, and are drawn to people like this. You know this would be a disaster and your post shows it, but it also shows that nevertheless you are still drawn to him and hope that we will in some way give you 'permission' to keep seeing him.

Sorry, oonana, drop him, drop him, drop himnow and do not even toy with the idea that perhaps this could be made to work. It can't and you know it.

Your gut feelings are right don’t let him back into your life or he’ll try and take over again.

throttled?

I think you have the answer yourself ooonana this is controlling behaviour and occuring quite soon in your rekindled relationship. It will only get worse so run for the hills before you get any more involved.