Oh dear I've blown it.I have posted previously about my grumpy daughter.Relations have been very strained in the last year or two since her little one was born.She has never coped well with being tired,and as a shift worker and her DP working very long hours and having a toddler that is frequent.However DH and I do a lot to help,having DGD overnight at least once a week ,plus nursery drops offs an pick ups.And since she has been pregnant again extra nights here and there so they can both sleep.
The trouble is in between lulls her and DP have big arguments, relations with his mother have deteriorated-I have to say that's not down to our DD in the main.But I've kept quiet on that one.She is the other grandma and I wish they would both eat humble pie and make up.
But the last argument - which she told me about unprompted-resulted in her suggesting again they went for counselling.To which he agreed.Now apparently both have backtracked and everything is 'fine' and when I suggested that this issue with his mum isn't great,and wouldn't it be best to bury the hatchet before the baby is born I got told it was none of my business.To which I replied well stop telling me the bad stuff and then not expecting me not to have an opinion.A huge row ensued.Its a mess really.I really think she is struggling to cope.However patience wears thin when I'm repeatedly told how I don't know what it's like to work and have children.This all kicked off because she had been unwell before Xmas,then had to work one shift.I sound resentful but blooming heck I did a similar job,more hours with 3 little ones and know I never took it out on my mum like this.Of course I love her but currently feel unable to spend anytime with her.Not what I envisaged,and we were always a close family.It's as if this fall out with his family has had a knock on effect on all of us.
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