So, after a very busy lead up to Christmas we hosted our family and other visiting friends through the festivities right up until yesterday afternoon. Today I have been a vegetable; with not an ounce more left to give I parked myself in an armchair and, apart from walking the dog, just gave myself over to doing nothing all day. The Wonderful Man, on the other hand, has done an equal share of hosting and busyness, but his idea of relaxing is to get on his bike and cycle the Devon coast to coast route - a mere 102 miles up hill and down dale.
I love the bones of the man and he me, but we really are chalk and cheese in so many ways. He loves adventures, watersports and cycling, I like a good book, family history research and the theatre; he's terribly untidy, I like things neat; he drinks strong black coffee, I have a latte; he's tall, fit and handsome, I'm short, fat and right now I'm fit for nothing. 
It's very fortunate that we share all the important things, but some days the contrasts between us are quite stark. What about you? Do/did you mostly share similar interests and hobbies, or are/were you too chalk and cheese?
grannyactivist
You sound a perfect match and will never get tired of each other. That's why opposites attract 
You both have different hobbies and interests which keep the relationship fresh yet enough in common to work together harmoniously and overlook each other's small irritations.
All good ??
I do wonder sometimes about dating apps and how good they are at 'matching' people according to their interests. I would never in a month of Sundays have chosen The Wonderful Man as a date if all I had to go on were his interests etc. And yet, here we are, still together after thirty odd years of each doing life in our own different ways. 
I am so relieved, why was I living with someone who seemed to be the opposite to me? Only yesterday I ran to close the door on the music he was playing, some awful woman screaming, I think it was what he'd call a soprano. Anyway, I can breathe again, it's OK to be different even though sometimes I want to run a mile and fantasise about a gallant romantic appearing in the night or even day, with a box of chocolates and a bunch of flowers. Vive la difference. 
Grannyactivist and Sodapop. - did you see “Mrs Wilson” on TV recently? I wonder if we’re all married to the same man - my fella loves bikes and cycling too! And I like a good book. But we like each other’s company and love going off in our campervan. 46 years.........
We are opposites in some respects. He was sporty in his youth, enjoys gardening and although not unsociable is not a chatty type.
I've never liked sport and would rather sit and admire the garden than tend it. He needs to be active all the time where as I can sit and read or just think.
We have always been very compatible in other ways
Chalk and Cheese here.
Ying and Yang that gives balance to a
relationship together with a bit of give and take.
(Imho) Cold Tar is a nice clean smell
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