I can see both sides. My mum, who lives rurally 50 minutes drive away, complains to everyone that she “never sees me” although I see her most weeks. In fact she often puts me off when I suggest her coming to stay overnight with us (I always collect her and drop off).
Our relationship was much better when I was in a job that meant I passed her house at least once a fortnight and we’d go for lunch.
My youngest daughter is severely disabled and when I changed jobs there was a 2 year period where I saw her only around once a month as her house isn’t safe for or from my daughter and I didn’t have a car on cost grounds. This seems to have changed things.
I wish my mum wasn’t techno-phobic, we paid for a mobile for her for years but she never used it it or had it with her. It is so much easier to feel in touch and included when you have text, Facebook or WhatsApp as options. A phone call with my mum is a minimum of 40 minutes and still ends awkwardly as if I am cutting her off, no matter how long we’re been talking for. I therefore only call her when I have a clear stretch of time, whereas with social media we could easily exchange comments and photos as I do with my own adult daughter. I probably speak to and see my adult daughter less than I see and speak to my mum, but thanks to text and WhatsApp, we still feel closely in touch.
It is interesting that my mother, who didn’t work, only saw her own mother (2 hours away) about twice a year on average, and she phoned less than once a week. Grandma used to complain ....