Unable to see my newborn Grandson

Posted too soon. Add note to say you hope both Mother and baby are doing well and you would love to see your dgc. Fingers crossed. Your son must know what happened. I would be asking him why. Even if you don't get to see baby always send birthday card.

I would send a card and beautiful gift for baby and flowers for mother. Add a note to say you ho

Dear HMperez... how sad for you. it would tear me apart, but keep fighting, he is your grandson, your flesh and blood.

www.bristolgrandparentssupportgroup.co.uk

If you look up Bristol Grandparents support Group on Face book or even google it they can put you in touch with other groups who can advise, help and give support as the members are all in the same situation, I heard an interview on the radio the other day re moves to classify this situation as abuse towards the child x

I am in a similar situation. My DGD was born in September and I have only seen her twice and my DS has only seen her three times. He is on the BC and pays maintenance; h
She wasn’t happy with the amount he offered and went through CMS which turned out to be a lower amount though he pays the original amount still.
He can not afford to take her to court, she has refused mediation which he paid for and she didn’t turn up. It’s very sad as although they were in a very short lived relationship he wants to be there his DD. It breaks my heart as I see my other sons DS all the time and can’t see my DGD.

Sadly there is no legal aid for these cases. My husband and I have spent over £15k for court fees, so far. And this baby was assaulted many times by his mother! He lives with my son but it’s been 20 months of legal battle for my DS to get full residency. Final case 25th Jan. social services appalling despite my DGS been in hospital twice due to injuries

The answer lies in your son's hands. Does he know why this cut off is in place?

It is up to him to first try and reach an amicable arrangement to see his son and if that cannot be done, seek legal advice. As the father he has legal rights, although you do not.

Is he sure the child is his? A DNA test may show that the child is not your grandson.

Stop trying to blame yourself. The worthiness of unworthiness of the family in cases like this is entirely irrelevant. It is all to do with your son and the mother of the child he thinks he has sired.

Very sad .....but please don't go down the legal path......unless your son is on legal aid.
Try to sort it out amicably. My heart aches for you, your son and all your family.
These things have a way of sorting itself out, but going in with all guns blazing will not help. Be patient xx

There has obviously been a major fall out between the parents for such a sad thing to happen.
I would never force the issue by way of solicitors etc that is for your son to deal with.
Give the mum time to get over the birth of her baby and things may change for the better.
In the meantime try and keep your own council and not cause any waves,are you in contact at all with the mums parents in any way ?

Make sure your sons gets a DNA report if he is asked to contribute to the child.

I couldn't think of anything worse happening.

Maybe when things have settled down as it's an emotional time all round, but I wouldn't force the issue. Take a step back for the time being until the mother of the baby gets accustomed to this new little person.

Don’t give up, he is your flesh and blood. There has obviously been a major fall out between her and your ds for her to feel like this. Can I ask what happened between them? Your ds has the right to see his son so he needs to speak to a lawyer who is an expert in Family Law.
Meanwhile I would send gc a gift and add a note to gf saying that you are there for her and your gs if they need you.

A very unhappy situation. I guess that your son and the mother were not in a proper relationship when the pregnancy occurred?
Your son, if he is inclined, could seek access to his son. He will legally be expected to make financial provision so it is reasonable for him to want to be a part of the boy's life. However if he starts that route he needs to be sure he will maintain it. Does your son live with you or is he independent?
It will be hard to know that this child is there and you cannot be a part of his life. Sadly there are no legal rights for grandparents atm. [flower]