Grannya you are very, very lucky indeed. I have heard of many, many stories where step children are treated appallingly. My own 3 have a step mother, who has no love for them, neither do the kids care. My youngest was still in school, but stayed with me and went to visit his father and step mum weekly.......never once was asked to stay over in their house. They took him out for a burger or KFC and dropped him back to me. And remarks such as you only call when you want money. She was indeed the wicked stepmother. And btw she did have 2 of our own, who were doted and lavished on, not only by their mum but by their stepfather too (my children's father). Hence my jaundiced view .....