I thought I would update on this.
Chores, I haven’t found the right moment to discuss this issue as a whole, though we have had a chat about some specifics eg not overfilling the bin!
Meals. On the two days I am always out, we make specific plans so he knows if I am expecting to come home to veg prepared, for example. So far so good.
Health. He is over the bronchitis and back to what is normal for him.
Depression? Possibly, in a non clinical sense. I raised a few issues about the future by referring to a blog I had read, about a man who found himself caring for his father. The man he described was pretty much how I envisage DH will be in a few years time. DH obviously recognised this as he got angry, said it doesn’t bear thinking about, then ranted on about what a dreadful world we live in, what kind of awful future there will be for the grandchildren etc. His take is that he cannot bear to think about it, it is all too much to contemplate, so why was I even reading this blog?
Wow, I was nt expecting that.
The only way he can discuss any issues is if we stick to a specific item, I propose a plan, or maybe offer a choice of two things( so he decides and thinks it is all his idea!). And this is an intelligent man, but he cannot bear to discuss things.
We have at least agreed on a holiday area for this year, in principle.
I have no idea how he is occupying his time and his mind. Upstairs in his study, or sleeping in front of the TV mostly.
He keeps himself to himself really.
I have to stop feeling annoyed when he does tasks that were routinely ones I did. He is good at finding "useful" jobs to do..he is just getting ready to reorganise the logs in the log store so older dryer ones are at the top ???