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Toto309 Sun 27-Jan-19 07:45:06

I'm not a prude but I was in a Patisserie Valerie cafe for afternoon tea. I was sat with my sister & the queue was forming for the till right next to us, So far, no issues.
That was until a couple in maybe their 30's/40's joined.
Right next to us the man lowered his hand and placed it under the woman's skirt! Didn't keep it there long, the woman didn't comment on it so couldn't have minded or didn't want to cause a scene.
I was too surprised and embarrassed to say anything plus I'm not sure I'd have known what to say.
I just found it totally unacceptable.

HildaW Mon 28-Jan-19 15:36:23

No wonder they've gone bust!

rafichagran Mon 28-Jan-19 15:51:44

Think the saying Get a room applies. Oviosly could not wait. Gross though.

Desdemona Mon 28-Jan-19 16:37:15

Is an escort the same as a prostitute?

Hilmix Mon 28-Jan-19 16:39:10

That's gross, Luckygirl, but I can't stop laughing...?

MoreNanny Mon 28-Jan-19 16:40:17

I'm afraid I feel that we are gradually moving towards an 'anything goes' society. Just look at what's on TV (from ALL providers). There isn't any innocence or anything left to the imagination any more. Everything was so much more romantic and sometimes even erotic if there was more left to the imagination. Oh dear, I sound like a prude but am not. Just saddened by the liberalness of society in general.

Elegran Mon 28-Jan-19 17:36:55

There are people who prefer sexual acitivities that they think will shock someone. When anything and everything becomes normal and acceptable, in private or public, nothing is left for those who want to be extreme and outrageous except the really dangerous and antisocial practices. These can be literally lethal - a matter of life and death. Unacceptance of a not-really-so-bad practice can make it daring and exciting enough for the rebels to indulge in it and feel they are shocking those who disapprove of it. That is one reason to not give up being shocked and disgusted when your personal boundaries are crossed.

glammagran Mon 28-Jan-19 17:53:23

Terribull saw that cartoon too. Always enjoy Newman’s week. ?

PECS Mon 28-Jan-19 17:53:28

Elegran I am not suggesting that ' anything goes' and do not like to see sexual intimacy in public.
A hug /quick kiss & even a playful squeeze of a buttock I can accept. It's the tonsil tickling, neck sucking and crotch & boob groping that is inappropriate in a busy public place.

driverann Mon 28-Jan-19 17:55:23

Desdemona.
Apparently not prostitution is selling sex, escorting is selling company / componianship Of course what happens whilst in an escorts company is another matter.

annep1 Mon 28-Jan-19 18:12:28

Yuk. I've seen this type of thing. Some people nowadays just don't care.

Elegran Mon 28-Jan-19 20:02:56

You weren't suggesting that, PECS, but the atmosphere at the present time on sexual matters is going in that direction. A lot of things which used to be taboo are now mainstream, and some people are doing things openly and as "normal" (whatever that means!) that would have been done as private kinkiness previously.

That is good in that they are not made to feel guilty for their preferences, but it also means that other people, who might have been content most of the time with doing the ordinary unkinky things and venturing occasionally into wilder things, now also consider those kinky practices as "normal and boring" and venture even further out when they feel like adding excitement. There is a possibility of the numbers doing dangerous and abusive things increasing, which is not good news for those on the receiving end, or, psychologically, for those on the administering end.

PECS Mon 28-Jan-19 20:14:55

I understand what you are saying. I guess that the greater access to / internet is also a major influence on these 'expectations' . So important for education about relationships to be well provided in schools to counter this sad and dangerous trend.

Venus Mon 28-Jan-19 22:48:45

Ohmother, I should have reported the shop about the fruit flies. It was the one in Covent Garden. I hope it's been closed down, but I haven't checked.

Marmight Mon 28-Jan-19 23:52:23

There are times & places and a cafe is not one of them!
We sat on a small Sydney harbour beach yesterday (sorry to mention/rub it in ?) and a very scantily clothed, bronzed couple stood, silhouetted on a rock in full view of everyone, being very intimate, with not a care in the world or for anyone else. The children thought it hilarious. If I'd been braver, I'd have climbed up with them and given the pair a nudge into the sea for a quick cooling down grin

Freeasabird Mon 28-Jan-19 23:55:20

Thank you Driverann and Venus for making me LOL.

annep1 Tue 29-Jan-19 02:10:02

Pecs I don't think squeezing someones buttock in public is acceptable. And I don't think much of females who let men do this. Some things are private. Oh for the days of yore. Morenanny. I'm with you!

Tipcat Tue 29-Jan-19 08:14:23

Probably not at Patisserie Valerie but I'd be a little miffed if darling OH didn't discretely attempt something similar when I'm ahead of him on an escalator......

Dolcelatte Tue 29-Jan-19 08:36:49

I saw something similar in a queue for drinks at a railway station. I asked him if he were a Member of Parliament (it was at the height of the scandal about improper behaviour)!

Lily65 Tue 29-Jan-19 09:26:59

Bring back Brief Encounter, I say. It's awful the way young children are exposed to things of a sexual and violent nature.

Any body not wanting to let it all hang out and some is labeled a prude.

crazyH Wed 30-Jan-19 13:49:59

Driver and Lily ?

Dolcelatte Wed 30-Jan-19 15:05:03

I love Brief Encounter, it's my favourite film. My daughter watched it as a teenager and didn't get it. She said 'What's all that about, they don't even have sex'. grin

Ohmother Wed 30-Jan-19 19:18:33

Here’s another one for the Brief Encounter style of romance ( not the extra marital stuff though). My favourite film too.

I also wish ‘bad uns’ we’re still frightened of the police; as in The Blue Lamp and run away instead of standing and challenging our boys in blue!

Lewie Thu 31-Jan-19 11:00:01

I wish there were 'Like' and 'LOL' options under posts to show our appreciation of a bit of humour!

PECS Thu 31-Jan-19 12:42:59

Hmm! I squeeze the OHs bum when we are out sometimes! Hope I have not offended anyone! blush

Elegran Thu 31-Jan-19 15:39:27

But I am sure you don't put a hand down his trousers to do so.