I have 3 children 2 sons and 1 daughter. Daughter lives nearest, about 5 miles away, she does not drive and she has some mental health probs. We speak on the phone daily, try to see her once a week (I don't go out due to disability so she has to get the bus to come here. one son I see maybe once a year, lives about 2 - 3 hours drive away, works long hours. Other son used to live quite near but now lives about half hours drive away, he has moved to a remote village, no busses,train about 2 miles (with no bus running from station to his village, he works in NHS and works long hours, his wife is a teacher and they have one daughter, 12 last week, I hardly see them and it is usually me that phones. Very good at getting in touch if money is really tight and they struggle. I do get upset sometimes and keep telling myself 'they work, they have a family and they have busy lives'.. I think it is also because I hardly ever get out, not been outside my front door in over 3 months, apart from 3 trips by ambulance to hospital etc, having said that i was in hospital for 5 days before Christmas, coming out on Christmas eve and my son did come and collect me and bring me home. I must stop moaning and feeling sorry for myself....