AIBU to still want some sex in my life?

Just a thought you say you ve been together 2 years and see each other twice a week Is there any reason for the limited meetings did you mutually agree to only seeing each other twice a week, which for two people in love is quite brief. Does he stay over at yours or you his? Do you ever go to his house?
You say you don’t think he’s cheating but can you be sure as you re not with him very much I think you need to be asking yourself many more questions as this doesn’t sound like a love affair from what you have written

I would have to say to him that intimacy, including intercourse was important to you. Lack of it is jeopardising the relationship. Try to persude him to seek counselling with or without you & or a discussion with a medic. .

YANBU, Jeannie. You're as entitled to your needs and feelings as he is to his. But I think BlueBelle hit the proverbial nail on the head - you'll have to decide if it means more to you to be with him or to have a relationship that includes sex. If it's he latter, then, i'm sorry but you may have to move on, imo.

Did he have a low sex drive all the time you ve known him as you say when you first met you had sex about once a fortnight that’s quite unusually for the start of a relationship He was only 62 when you met and that’s young for a man to go 2 weeks at the start of a relationship you usually can’t get them off you
I think this man doesn’t really have any libido and unless he will talk to someone you are on a hiding to nothing
You will have to decide whether you love him enough to go without sex or whether it’s time to start again

Could you leave it a month or two and then try again to reignite the sexual side of your relationship?

You're not being unreasonable, but you seem to have come up against the brick wall of men's stubbornness. If he doesn't have erectile dysfunction, but still doesn't want to have sex, sorry but you've really got a problem. At least with ED there are things which can help.

If its "all in his mind" and he just doesn't want to have sex, I'm afraid there isn't a lot that you can do. If this means a lot to you, it might be a deal-breaker . You're still young enough to start again . Good luck !

YANBU Sex and intimacy are human needs and age doesn't matter. Tell him you enjoy that part of your relationship and you want it to continue. If he doesn't or won't listen to how his decision effects you, end the relationship.

Just to add he doesn't have impotence. He's well able to get and maintain an erection. He's just decided he's too old and doesn't want to continue. He wants us to hold hands and be affectionate but not in any sexual way. He totally refuses to discuss this with anyone outside our relation ship too

I'd suggest that he go have a complete physical, including a mental health check. Normally men and women are capable of being sexually active well into old age. (Seriously. I have heard of affairs being carried on in care facilities, and reportedly one of the populations with the highest rates of STIs is older adults. The oldest father on record was in his 90s. He fathered a child with a nurse at the care home where he lived.) If he's having issues in that department they need to be checked. Blood pressure medications, diabetes, and heart disease can all cause a loss of sexual function in men, as can depression.