Just wanted to post an update for everyone that replied and encouraged me, and in case anyone is reading this who is in the same position I was in when I first posted. Its now nearly a year and a half after I told my husband it was over, and what a year and a half its been!
It really was one of the most difficult times I've ever had. Had to have counselling to help me process it and get through it. At the time it felt like it was never going to end. We continued to live in the same house until I had bought my own place, I didnt move out until end of October that year. But now I am in my own house and have met the most amazing man. I am so happy, every moment of unhappiness last year was so worth it. I sometimes still cant beleieve I've done it. All I have acheived and got myself to where I am now. I am so much happier, it was such a difficult thing to do and get thru but was 100% worth it. If you are in the same position, have the courage to decide to do it, then just take it one step at a time to make it happen. If I can do it, so can you. Its so worth it, life is too short to be unhappy so have courage and make the change. No-one else can do it for you, there is no magic solution like there is in the films. Its painful and difficult but I have no doubts I did the right things. I feel happy, calm and positive about the future. I have the life I always dreamed of.
Thankyou everyone for your words of encouragement and hope, you really made such a big difference to me in such a bleak and difficult time.
Peace and happiness to you all x
Heated Brush recommendation,please.