Sunday lunch today

Quite frankly, your husband sounds like a grumpy old *!!!
There are some men that whatever you do, you can't please them.
Sounds like he is one of those men that likes his routine, and gets stroppy when it's spoilt for any reason but I don't understand why you think you are being punished just because he reckoned that nothing was right with his main course? If he sulks on a regular basis like this, I suggest you point him in the direction of the kitchen and tell him that you won't cook him a nice dinner on a Sunday unless he either takes you out for lunch or he cooks it himself as he didn't appreciate the last meal you went to so much trouble to cook and stop looking to him to approve of things that you do !

Tell him that next Sunday, he purchases the ingredients, prepares, cooks and serves them and does all the clearing away and you will enjoy the rest from cooking.

Stop cooking lovey meals from now on. Beans on toast or scrambled egg. If he says anything reply " Well, you didn't like the steak I cooked last time so I am keeping it simple and not so expensive."

Give him beans on toast!

Must admit I have given up cooking Sunday roasts, I seemed to spend all my time in the kitchen prepping or clearing up. My son doesn't like roast anyway, and to have a nice piece of beef or lamb it nearly needs a mortgage to pay for them!
I roast a chook mid week sometimes for OH and myself.

Last Sunday was a big birthday for me. DH does half the cooking in our house, but gallantly says I am the better cook. He laid on a roast sunday lunch for 13, roast chicken and roast beef, with all the trimmings. The AC set the table and helped him dish out, but it was all perfectly cooked and hot, I was so proud of him.

If I do mess up, he might gently say something, but it would have to be a bad mistake, and obviously justified, and I would reluctantly do the same if he was cooking. No-one likes being criticised, it does rankle. Driving is another issue with us, neither of us can bear the slightest hint of criticism!

If his steak was tough (does happen) and mine wasn't, I would offer to swap, and if that was refused, probably announce 'suit yourself, I did offer'! If he likes his vegetables soggy all the time, I might dish everything up including my veg, and leave his boiling to death whilst serving everything else, putting them on at his plate at the last minute.

I am really hoping your OP was written in exasperation and half in jest, if I really thought he could think of punishing you for listening to Leonard Cohen while you cook, I would be really worried for you?

I can't remember the last time I cooked a roast dinner. Too much of a palarver.

Yes, definitely a week of ready meals!

Now that we are both retired my husband and I take it in turn to cook. The one who hasn't cooked does the clearing up afterwards. It works for us.

I am not surprised that you were 'miffed'. Time to make changes perhaps?

Well done Hilmix now is the time to stand up for yourself.

Maybe it's your husband's turn to cook the meal and he can see for himself how easy it is.

Plenty to think about here ! I do need to stand up for myself more . The Sunday lunch may have met its end. Roll on macaroni cheese,baked potato .... or meals that can be zapped. I'm done.

We had pizzas today ?
The question is, does your DH always complain about meals, or rarely?
Steak can be tough sometimes, even expensive meat.
I prefer soft broccoli and carrots too!

Suggest that he take you out for Sunday lunch next week as he's apparently not enjoyed the one you kindly made.

Times have moved on, go for a walk eat cheese on toast.

Your opening sentence says it all. My life is far from perfect but that's not on.

Yes definitely alarm bells heard xx please take care of yourself and please yourself

Hilmix at the beginning of your thread you said ‘In an effort to please my husband’ which set off alarm bells in my head. Also ‘maybe me having my choice meant I had to be punished’. May I ask is he controlling ?

It is understandable that you wanted to cook a nice meal but why does your husband need to be pandered too ?

Perhaps I am asking questions you won’t want to answer, but this thread in my mind is far more about how your husband treats you than what you had to eat today.

I hope I haven’t overstepped the mark but I think your DH needs standing up to. He sounds a bully to me.

My OH thinks he is a brilliant cook and either didn’t praise or found fault with my cooking. I just ignored mostly, but occasionally told him how much time and trouble I had taken. More recently he does sometimes comment that the dinner was tasty. Not sure why he changed, but seems to find cooking himself more of an effort these days.

As others have said, cook to please yourself, not him.

This is so sad , I feel he is a bully

I know just what you mean by The Help! Do the rest of you know! ?

Thanks for the replies, Gransnetters. Yes, he can be very thoughtless and rude when he's not being kind and loving. No half measures with him !
I will try a ready meal next Sunday, less washing up anyway.I could offset this by baking a cake using the recipe from the film The Help ........??

My OH is also slaving over a hot stove. I appreciate anything he cooks for me as did he when I was chief cook.
How unkind of your husband to pick fault.
Other posters have offered some good advice....good luck. ?

Crikey - how was it that you dint clock him over his head with the gravy boat ;-) ???

It sounds like he was just looking to find fault. I am totally with granmary don't rise to the bait and suggest you take turns cooking going forward... I speak from experience.... Grampy is currently slaving over a hot stove preparing roast pork !!!

He prefers meat and 2 veg, I don't so Sundays are now his territory in the kitchen. Makes us both happy !

Yes, ready meals for a week should do it! ??

Agree with Chewbacca If you would like a home cooked Sunday dinner then cook one for yourself and give him a ready meal. If you would just like a simple snack then make one for yourself and give him a ready meal.

Tell him that as he enjoys ready prepared food from the supermarket more than he enjoys your cooking you have decided to do him a favour and stop cooking for him.