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Sunday lunch today

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Chewbacca Sun 17-Mar-19 16:02:57

I'm afraid that I'd be serving up a " grab a meal from the freezer, jab a fork in the top, bung it in the microwave and ding ding it for 3 minutes" meal, after all that Hilmix.

If he can't be bothered being polite; I'm damned sure I couldn't be bothered going the extra mile to please him from now on.

Granmary18 Sun 17-Mar-19 15:55:02

Dear me. He is being thoughtless and rude ...but having said that none of this makes you useless. Tough steak...just say "Oh dear, mine isn't!" Hard broccolli...just say "Oh dear! Mine isn't!" Meal ok ..."That's good!"

And yes ...simple lunches seems a good way forward...unless he would like to take turns at the cooking of them, when he can ofcourse cook what he likes!

Yes you should stop trying to please but I suspect you are in a pattern of that in your marriage and he will expect you to continue! Expect sulking!

You must have good taste listening to Leonard Cohen ...brilliant!

Hilmix Sun 17-Mar-19 15:46:05

P inkness not kindness☺

Hilmix Sun 17-Mar-19 15:43:38

Today I set about lunch early In an effort to please my husband
We were having rump steak, garlic stuffed mushrooms, tenderstem broccoli, carrots (as ever,) with onion gravy and my husband's favourite, roasties. I had asked if he is would like sweet potato wedges instead with the steak but he said 'no'.
After sitting down to it, he pronounced the steak to be tough ( it wasn't) I showed how it had the required amount of kindness through the middle so he then blamed his knife .
I offered to swap with my piece but he said there was no point in us both having tough steak
Then the broccoli was hard. Followed by a sulk when I mentioned that most veg tastes better when it isn't reduced to slop. Hush my mouth...
He pronounced the meal ok but enthused over the shop bought sticky toffee pudding and squirty cream we had for pudding.
I am now in my room trying to calm my thoughts. I think the time has come to insist on simple lunches on Sunday, no more the hours spent trying to please. I feel bad to be so upset considering the terrible things happening in the world just now but I feel totally useless...
PS I spent the morning listening to Leonard Cohen whilst preparing lunch when our usual scenario is for husband to watch John Wayne saving the Wild West or winning WW2 single-handed. Maybe me having my choice meant I had to be punished. Who knows?