Future daughter In law

How much?

Perhaps it is a way to discover how much you have in savings for your old age? It really sounds as though she is trying to find out about your family finances. Say and promise nothing and say you will give them something after they are wed.

A bridal shower is similar to a baby shower
Oh! I did wonder, as we went to a wedding last year where there was a sudden downpour, luckily everyone made an 'umbrella aisle' for the bride and groom as the wedding was outside.

Oh my goodness. Language tells me you are American. I would say NO NO NO. They deserve nothing. I would be trying to point out to son what he is marrying into.....

This exact situation has happened to us with the result that our son is now alienated from us. We were kept out of the first pregnancy as well so do not know our little grandson and they have now moved along way away. I can only describe her as a she devil and am so annoyed with our son for letting this happen. Best advice is to back off and hope they change over time.

I agree with stella . no info .no cakes .i suggest a family meeting...and see who is doing what? 6.000 cookies you having a laugh. tell her to get a caterer in. ask your son...

Jalima1108 Don't you think this is all true then?

And this . . . .

The wedding cookie table tradition is a phenomena deeply ingrained within the Pittsburgh wedding culture. Various historical sources state that the origin of the cookie table varies. Some sources believe that it originated in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, while others argue soulfully that it all began in Youngstown, Ohio.14 Jun 2016

I had to Google as I was curious about cookies and weddings. I came across this, so it does seem to be "a thing"

A cookie table is a wedding tradition said to originate in Western Pennsylvania, where in place of or in addition to a wedding cake, a large table with different cookies is presented to guests at the wedding reception. ... Cookie tables are included in primarily Italian or Catholic wedding receptions.

Mommie6 I feel stressed just reading about your problem. I hope the other family can come to some sort of compromise but by the sounds of it I wouldn't be holding my breath. Can you talk to your son about how you are feeling?

So rude, I would tell them to Bog off and pay for it themselves if I'm not in the 'Need to know' club!

Then again, I can be a tad bullish!

sorry - Daisyboots

I wonder if she's snuggled up in her onesie Disyboots.

There have been a few lately, sales must be up.

A bridal shower is similar to a baby shower, except that it's for a bride, not a mum.

A hen night is more of what we would call a bachelorette or stagette party.

The cookies number must be a typo. If you made 100 a day it would still take 60 days and where in the name of all that's reasonable would you keep them?
So grateful that both DD's weddings were so not like this, with families pitching in and helping where needed. For instance , DD1's MiL is a brilliant flower arranger, I'm hopeless, so she did sterling work on that. The groom did excellent strimming of the path from Church to reception, close by, and no cars needed as the church was across the road from the happy couple's house. Of course, there were some hitches but also lots of laughs and a great day. Feel sorry for OP if genuine.

Don't you think this is all true then? ?

I thought that everyone on this thread would be offered left over cookies - perhaps not then

Sorry posted too soon . But now after nearly 24 hours since Mommie6 first posted and hasn't come back to reply I think the original post was a wind up. None of it sounds true.

When I first read this pis6t thismorning it sounded very far fetched especially the 6000 cookies
I have an American friend who nakes aboit 800 cookies prior yo Christmas each year and that sounds rather gasp making but 6000 well....

Mapleleaf/Bluebelle. (That sounds pretty!)
I'm very puzzled! But I'm willing to give it a bit more rope. I think that the OP might well be from another time zone from the UK so it could be 9 hours behind, let's say, and then she may be at work during the day?
I am prepared to hold on just a might (mite?) longer.
I have realised (see above) that I have totally misunderstood the "Shower" thinking she was having a wash.... I was always a bit too literal... The 6,000 cookies awaits some explanation too. As I said, on an ordinary oven with 2 shelves, cooking two oven loads a day, I would need 21 days. That would mean my oven being unavailable for my own cooking for a while. So 3 weeks every day I would have to get up and make cooky dough and bake. Presumably they would go in the freezer? That isn't the nicest way to eat cookies. Ah well...
Let us see...

Posted too early. No BlueBelle there's a whiff of make believe about OP's story

Mommie6. Have I misunderstood "the Shower"? Is it a sort of party? Like a baby-shower when people bring the expectant mother presents for her expected baby? We don't usually have these in the UK so I didn't understand. We do have a "Hen Night" but that is usually the Bride and her friends together having a night of fun and usually just for that generation. The Stag Night is the same for the future Bridegroom with all his male friends. I expect you know but I didn't understand the "shower" and thought you were having a wash!!
The other thing is the Processional. We just don't have one. The Groom is already at the altar if it's in Church, or at the desk in the Office, waiting with his Best Man beside him. The Bride comes down the aisle on her father's arm or if there is no father someone she chooses (I had to for my daughters because their father died) following the Bride are the Bride's Maids or if she chooses, Matrons of Honour and/or page boys. The Mother of the Bride sits in the front with all the other people. The Bride's family usually sit to the left as you enter, the Groom's to the right.
When the ceremony is over, the Bride and Groom walk down the aisle together with the Bridesmaids, Page Boys, Maids of Honour (if any) following them and the parents of the Bride and Groom usually file out behind them followed by their family then all friends follow on.
Photographs are usually taken with the couple, the couple and bridesmaids etc., the couple and his parents, the couple and her parents, the couple and both sets of parents and bridesmaids etc., then whatever is decided!
If you have a very different arrangement we need to know. The Mothers' flowers is not a set tradition for me. However at my children's weddings, both I and the other mum respectively were given a bouquet of flowers at the Reception when the speeches were made. I was not expecting it - to me it is not something that "must" be done!

No, I’m not, Bluebelle. The poster has never come back, and I feel a lot of it is very unbelievable. I did post a reply, but felt, even then, that it was sonewhat far fetched shall we say, but gave the poster the benefit of the doubt? Believe it to be so even more now.

So you’re all believing this ?

Where did OP go?

Shame that the OP hasn't responded yet.
Firneds were asked to pay half towards the wedding of their DS and DIL but in the end were only allowed to have one-sixth of the guests so they were basically conned.
They agreed to it because they didn't want to "cause trouble" for the couple. Eight years later the DIL has banned them from seeing their DS and GCs.
This type of family starts as they mean to go on. The DIL's mother is now embarking on her second divorce because her demands weren't being met.......!!!!